Be Fashionable and Cool!
Summer Styling Tricks
Summer is finally here, along with the humidity and raging temperatures we get to enjoy in the Midwest! How do those of us over a certain age remain cool and comfortable but still look stylish? Shorts are a logical choice, but it’s good to keep some other options in mind.
I know capris are on trend this year, but they are not particularly flattering unless you have tall, slim legs. More flattering than capri pants are cropped pants in a breathable fabric such as cotton, viscose, or a lyocell blend. These fabrics are not clingy but drape well. For the most slimming look, choose cropped pants that are no shorter than two inches above your ankle.
Another cool option is the skort. Golfers love them, as they can be as stylish as a skirt but give you the coverage of shorts—great for sporting events! The length should be around your knees or slightly above. Many skorts offer the benefit of having a little tummy control shaper built in, making them a highly versatile piece of clothing.
Linen is a wonderful fabric for staying cool. Lightweight and textured, linen provides for loose-fitting comfort. Linen is a great alternative for full-length pants; they are remarkably cool and allow air to flow around your body. Go with light colors for summer, since dark colors absorb heat. Remember: With a loose-fitting bottom half, wear something more structured and fitted on top.
Maxi dresses are another option but are not always feasible for every day. A mid-length sundress or skirt might be more useful. Sometimes you can find a two-piece set with a midi skirt. This gives you the option of wearing the pieces together like a dress or splitting them up for more casual looks. This would be a great item to pack for vacation, too!
A mid-length skirt should hit your leg between the knee and the mid-calf. This length is great, since it is long enough for significant coverage but easier to move in than a maxi-length dress. Look for an A-line silhouette, as it is universally flattering.
One more cute option is an athletic dress. These dresses are made from sweat-wicking fabric (for working out), so they are super cool and stylish with very little effort. Throw on a ball cap, sneakers, and sunglasses, and you are ready to go!
If you do want to include shorts for summer, pick a Bermuda length short. This should land around your knee, have a body skimming fit, and be made from a breathable fabric. Styling any of these bottom-half options is easy. Just remember to pair a structured top with a loose bottom, or a flowing top with a fitted bottom.
Summer is all about looking effortless and cool. Here’s a list of pieces you need to have to easily put together fresh, summery outfits.
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White, off-white, or cream shorts, pants, or capris in a breathable fabric. This is such an easy go-to item that you will wear again and again. Nothing looks fresher than white! Remember to wear flesh-colored underwear under your white pants for a no-line demarcation.
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Linen pants are a no-brainer for summer. If you love black pants like I do, you’ll find that linen is a cooler option. What’s so great about black is that it can be easily elevated to an evening or dressier occasion. And if your black pants are linen, you can dress them up while still keeping cool.
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Summer dresses are a quick, one-and-done way to dress. It is worth the trouble that it takes to find a great one that you’re happy to wear. A favorite of mine is a gauzy, flowing dress with 3/4 sleeves. Great with a cute sun hat and sneakers or elevated with fabulous earrings and an updo hairstyle! Look for one with simple lines that float around your body. You can always add a cute chain belt if you want to have waist definition.
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Tank tops are always a good option for summer, but if you don’t like to show your arms, you can choose tee shirts with short or 3/4 sleeves. Look for cotton with a little stretch for comfort. One discovery I recently came across is a sheer top with sleeves that you wear under a sleeveless top. This is a good way to get arm coverage and, as a bonus, add a little style to a simple tank top.
Everyone likes to keep it simple in the summer. Dressing for warm weather doesn’t have to be complicated! Celebrate those blue skies, breathe in the fresh air, and enjoy the flowers of summer with some updated pieces that feel as cool as they look.
Editor’s Note: Holly has been in the fashion industry for over 30 years as a buyer, boutique store owner, visual merchandiser, and fashion show producer. She is currently the owner of a modeling agency. Holly regularly appears on local TV doing fashion segments.
Fashion Worthy
By Holly Bell
Weekend Gourmet
Full Bounty—Let’s Eat!
Green Chili Cheese Bread
Slice a loaf of French or Italian bread in half lengthwise. Melt 1 stick of butter in a microwave-safe dish. Stir in one 4-ounce can of chopped green chilies. Spread this mixture over the bread. In a bowl, mix together 1/2 cup of mayonnaise, 1/2 cup of grated Parmesan, 2 cups of grated cheddar or jack cheese, and pepper or other herbs as you desire. Spread this mixture over the bread. Put on a cookie sheet and bake at 375 degrees for 10–15 minutes, or wrap in foil and put on the grill (watch closely). Slice and serve.
Piña Mojitos
In a blender, mix 6 shots of coconut rum, 2 cans of coconut milk, 2 small cans of pineapple juice, and a generous handful of ice. Whir until blended. Muddle a few mint leaves into cocktail glasses, then add the juice mixture and stir. Add a bit of club soda and garnish with sliced lime or a piece of pineapple. (Eliminate the spirits for a kid-friendly smoothie.)
Fresh Tomato-Basil Soup
Blanch, peel, and chop (and seed, if you want) 3 pounds of fresh garden tomatoes. In a large soup pot, heat 3 Tablespoons of oil (your choice) and add 1 small onion, chopped, along with the tomatoes. Cook on medium for 10 minutes. Add 4 cups of chicken broth and 2 Tablespoons of tomato paste. Cover and simmer for 20 minutes. Puree, if desired, using an immersion blender. Add 1 cup of cream or Half and Half. Start tasting and adjusting the seasonings—salt, pepper, garlic powder? Add some freshly chopped basil and heat for another 5 minutes. Serve with a crusty bread crouton.
Marinated Grilled Swordfish
Mix together 1/4 cup of olive oil, 1 and 1/2 Tablespoons of honey, 1 and 1/2 Tablespoons of soy sauce, 1 teaspoon of lemon zest, 2 teaspoons each of fresh parsley and thyme, a clove of minced garlic, and salt and pepper as desired. Reserve 1/4 cup of this marinade to serve with the cooked fish. Pour the rest of the marinade into a dish or plastic bag. Add 2 or 4 swordfish fillets, spooning the marinade over the fish. Refrigerate for 30 minutes. On a clean and oiled grill rack, grill the fish until they are opaque and flaky (about 5–7 minutes per side) and the instant-read thermometer reads 145 degrees. Serve with herbed potatoes or rice, lemon wedges, and extra sauce.
Grilled Eggplant and Heirloom Tomatoes
Slice an eggplant and tomatoes into 1/2-inch-thick rounds. Brush both sides of the vegetables with olive oil and season with garlic powder, salt, and pepper. Place on clean and oiled grill grates. Cook for 8–15 minutes, until tender. For the last minute of cooking, place a slice of mozzarella cheese on top of the eggplant. Serve stacked on a plate, drizzled with balsamic vinegar.
Garden Ratatouille
Pick your favorite fresh garden veggies (this recipe calls for bell peppers, squash, eggplant, and tomatoes). Wash and cut up to prepare for a cook on the stovetop (in batches). Pour 2 Tablespoons of olive oil into a large sauté skillet or pot. Add 2 cups of diced onion and sauté for 5 minutes. Add 1 cup of diced bell peppers and sauté for another 5 minutes. Add 2 cloves of minced garlic and sauté for 2 minutes. Remove these veggies to a bowl or plate.
Add another 2 Tablespoons of olive oil to the skillet. Add 2 cups of diced squash. Cook for 5 minutes or until softened, then remove. Add another bit of oil, then add 1 or 2 cups of diced eggplant and sauté for 2–3 minutes. Add 1/4 cup of water. Add 3–4 chopped or diced tomatoes, cook for a few minutes, and then add everything back to the pot. Season with salt, pepper, and thyme to taste. Don’t overcook, or it will turn to mush. Top with grated cheese to serve.
Easy Corn on the Cob
Husk and clean as many ears as you like. Fill a large stew pot with water and bring to a boil. Add the corn, 1 Tablespoon of butter, and 1/2 cup of milk. Cover and turn off the heat, then steep for 20 minutes. You can “finish” over hot grill heat if you like.
Crab Louie Patio Salad
Prepare a large salad with a mixture of greens, spinach, slaw—whatever you like. Add chopped scallions and shallots, 3 peeled and chopped hard boiled eggs, chopped celery, sliced radishes, and whatever fresh veggies you have on hand. Add a can or two of canned, drained crabmeat (or fresh, if you’re lucky). Refrigerate until you have prepared the dressing.
In a bowl, mix 1 cup of mayonnaise, a dash of Dijon, a dash of sugar, and 1 Tablespoon of sweet pickle juice (or vinegar). Mix well. Pour over the prepared salad. Stir and mix well. Top with several sliced cherry tomatoes. Serve with crusty garlic toasts or buttered rolls.
Blackberry Upside-Down Cake
In a saucepan, heat 2 Tablespoons of butter. Add 1/4 cup of brown sugar and cook for 2–3 minutes on medium. Add 2 cups of fresh rinsed blackberries, cooking for until 3–4 minutes, until bubbly. Stir in 3/4 cup of sugar and mash slightly. Cook for another 5 minutes. Remove from heat and pour into a buttered 9-inch cake pan.
Beat 1 cup of sugar and 1 stick of soft butter until light and fluffy. Add 2 large eggs. Whisk together 1 and 1/2 cups of flour, 2 teaspoons of baking powder, and 1/2 teaspoon of salt. Spoon into the egg mixture, alternately with 1/3 cup of milk and 1 teaspoon of vanilla. Pour the cake batter over the berries. Bake (on a cookie sheet) at 350 degrees for 35–40 minutes. Let the cake cool for about 30 minutes. When cooled, run a knife around the cake edge, place a cake plate over the cake, and gently flip over to release the cake from the pan. Ice cream, anyone?
Editor’s Note: Kate has been an Omaha area culinary instructor since 1997. She attended The Institute for the Culinary Arts at Metropolitan Community College in Omaha.
By Kate Beiting
Zodiac Forecast
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
This month brings a whirlwind of activity in both your career and personal life. Amidst the flurry, remember to carve out time for self-care and relaxation. Exciting new work prospects will arise, but be cautious not to overextend yourself and risk burnout. Carefully evaluate every financial opportunity, weighing both the advantages and potential drawbacks before making each decision. If you embrace balance, you can thrive in all areas.
Virgo (Aug. 23 - Sep. 22) This month is ideal for nurturing the important relationships in your life. Plan lunches, meaningful conversations, or fun outings to strengthen your connections. Deepening these relationships will bring joy, support, and lasting memories.
Libra (Sep. 23 - Oct. 22) This month, welcome change with enthusiasm! Tackle lingering home projects and savor the pride that comes with progress. Indulge in self-care, and don’t hesitate to pursue a new job or relationship.
Scorpio (Oct. 23 - Nov. 21) Consider inviting loved ones to join you on an adventure. Your creativity is heightened, making it an excellent opportunity to start a new hobby. Step into the spotlight and let your abilities shine.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 - Dec. 21) This is an auspicious month for financial planning and pursuing long-term goals. Stay alert for opportunities for increased income and smart investments. Strategic decisions now can lay the groundwork for lasting success.
Capricorn (Dec. 22 - Jan. 19) This month, you’ll find yourself attracting new people and financial opportunities. Keep an open mind about both! Take bold steps in your romantic and financial pursuits, trusting your intuition to guide you.
Aquarius (Jan. 20- Feb. 18) This is a period for self-reflection and renewal. Revisit goals or routines that you may have overlooked. Approach fresh connections with an open heart and genuine curiosity.
Pisces (Feb. 19- Mar. 20) This month, make a conscious effort to nurture and strengthen your relationships. Reach out, mend fences, and welcome new people into your circle. These bonds will provide comfort, joy, and a sense of belonging.
Aries (Mar. 21- Apr. 19) This month, promising career opportunities will come your way, bringing your highest aspirations within reach. Trust your intuition, as it will be especially sharp, and let it guide your choices.
Taurus (Apr. 20- May 20) This month is perfect for travel and expanding your horizons. You’re ready for new experiences, and others will be eager to join you. Embracing spontaneity will help you discover new aspects of yourself. Adventure awaits!
Gemini (May 21- Jun. 20) Review your finances this month, as you will face opportunities for financial growth as well as potential challenges. Be mindful of high-emotion situations, and try to avoid conflict.
Cancer (Jun. 21- Jul. 22) If you’re seeking love, step confidently into new social situations and open your heart to possibilities. Enjoy meaningful moments and let your feelings be known. Vulnerability can strengthen connections.
A Woman's Work
Back-to-School Season
More Than Just New Notebooks and Fresh Starts
As summer ends, excitement fills stores and neighborhoods. Back-to-school season marks a period of transition, preparation, and opportunity for all ages. Whether students are starting kindergarten, high school, or college, the weeks before class bring anticipation and nervous energy that ripple through families and communities alike.
For many families, back-to-school shopping is a cherished tradition, and store aisles fill with colorful notebooks, backpacks, and classroom supplies. Students relish choosing items that showcase their personalities, from water bottles to themed folders. This process not only builds excitement, but also fosters a sense of readiness and organization for the year ahead.
Transitioning from summer freedom to a structured school schedule can be challenging. During vacation, students often stay up late and spend relaxed time with family and friends. As school approaches, families gradually adjust routines, setting earlier bedtimes, planning morning activities, and scheduling homework, to ease the shift and reduce stress.
Teachers play a vital role in this season of change. Before students arrive, educators devote time to preparing lessons, organizing materials, and creating welcoming classroom environments. Many decorate with engaging displays and messages designed to spark curiosity. Their efforts lay the groundwork for a positive, supportive learning space where students feel valued.
For young children, starting school brings both excitement and anxiety. Meeting new teachers and classmates can be overwhelming. Parents can help ease the transition by speaking positively about school, visiting the school building before the first day, and encouraging open conversations about feelings. This kind of support builds confidence and enthusiasm for the journey ahead.
Teenagers face unique back-to-school challenges. High school students, in particular, juggle academics, extracurricular activities, part-time jobs, and social obligations. As expectations rise, staying organized becomes essential. Tools like planners, calendars, and time-management strategies help students balance assignments and manage stress.
For college students, the transition is often the most dramatic. Freshmen may move into dorms, gain independence, and navigate entirely new environments. While this can feel intimidating, it also offers opportunities for personal growth and new friendships. Returning students use the semester’s start to reassess goals and prepare for future careers.
Technology has also become central to the back-to-school experience. Laptops, tablets, educational apps, and online platforms are now common classroom tools that expand learning opportunities. However, they require strong digital literacy skills. Managing screen time, organizing digital files, and practicing responsible tech use are increasingly important for success.
Back-to-school is also a time that highlights the power of community. Schools connect students, teachers, parents, and staff, fostering a web of support. Events, clubs, sports teams, and volunteer opportunities help students form meaningful relationships and discover new interests.
Back-to-school is more than individual preparation; it’s a season that brings entire communities together. The excitement extends beyond students and families. Local businesses, such as bookstores and clothing shops, see increased activity as neighborhoods prepare for the academic year. Communities may host fairs, donation drives, or backpack giveaways to ensure that every child is equipped for learning. Libraries and community centers offer special programs, like homework help, reading challenges, and study skills workshops, further supporting students as they transition. This collective effort highlights the importance of education and demonstrates how everyone can contribute to a successful start. Ultimately, back-to-school is a shared celebration of growth and possibility.
With the support of family, teachers, and the broader community, students are empowered to embrace challenges, pursue interests, and advance toward their futures. While returning to homework and early mornings isn’t always easy, the new year brings fresh chances for learning and achievement. With preparation and optimism, students can make the most of the journey ahead.
Parents also play an invaluable role in the back-to-school experience, often working behind the scenes to ensure that their children are set up for success. From helping with homework to attending parent-teacher conferences and volunteering at school events, their involvement strengthens students’ support networks and sense of belonging. This active participation helps children academically and boosts motivation and confidence.
Schools themselves are evolving to meet the diverse needs of today’s students. Many now offer programs that support mental health, such as counseling services and mindfulness workshops. These initiatives acknowledge the pressures that students face and provide coping strategies. Schools may also offer resources for those with learning differences, ensuring that everyone can thrive.
As the school year unfolds, traditions like first-day photos, welcome assemblies, and open house nights create lasting memories. These rituals mark important milestones and remind us that back-to-school is about more than academics; it’s about growth and connection. Whether it’s a child’s first day of kindergarten or a teenager’s final year before graduation, this season is filled with opportunity and the promise of new beginnings.
By Savannah Rosa
Fresh Concepts
Smile Upgrades
Cosmetic Dentistry for Real Life
Cosmetic dentistry isn’t just for celebrities anymore—it’s becoming part of everyday smile care. In the United States, one market analysis estimated the cosmetic dentistry market at about $4.25 billion in 2024 and projected it to nearly double by 2034. Why the surge? Social media, video calls, better technology, and a growing interest in looking and feeling confident are big contributors. After all, a smile is often one of the first things people notice. Whether it’s for family photos, job interviews, first dates, daily conversations, or Zoom meetings, many people feel self-conscious about chipped or missing teeth, stains, gaps, or misalignment. Today’s cosmetic dentistry offers more options than ever for creating a confident smile—and that helps explain the boom.
Today, patients can invest in less invasive, natural-looking procedures on a budget. Age, vocation, and other perceived limiting factors don’t matter as much, especially with a budget-friendly treatment plan. If improving a smile boosts self-confidence, encourages better oral hygiene, and upgrades function, it’s worth the effort and expense!
Let’s explore procedures that focus on improving the appearance of teeth, gums, and smiles. Most routines involve whitening, veneers, aligners, and dental implants. The key is understanding the possibilities and the investment so you can choose the right solution for your long-term oral health and your pocketbook. Some projects are quick touch-ups, while others might be a complete renovation. We’ll look at differences between cosmetic and restorative treatments, questions to ask before you start, and lots of tips. Let’s go!
What’s the difference between cosmetic and restorative dentistry? Restorative dentistry focuses on repairing or replacing damaged or missing teeth and restoring oral function and health. Common examples include fillings, crowns, bridges, root canals, and dental implants. Cosmetic dentistry, on the other hand, focuses on improving the appearance of your smile through treatments such as whitening, veneers, bonding, and clear aligners. These procedures are often elective and are designed to enhance color, alignment, shape, and overall aesthetics.
Many treatments fall into both categories. For example, dental implants restore chewing function while also improving appearance, and crowns can strengthen a damaged tooth while enhancing your smile. The best treatment plans often support both goals: a smile that is healthy and beautiful.
One of the quickest smile upgrades is professional whitening. Coffee, tea, red wine, tobacco, and aging can all dull natural tooth enamel over time. Dentist-supervised whitening uses peroxide-based gels, such as hydrogen peroxide or carbamide peroxide, to break stains into smaller particles and brighten teeth by several shades. In-office treatments are fast (usually completed in one visit), while dentist-provided custom trays are used at home over days or weeks. Results commonly last about one to three years, depending on diet, smoking, oral hygiene, and touch-up care.
Whitening works on natural teeth only, so crowns, veneers, and tooth-colored fillings will not lighten and may need to be matched or replaced separately. Costs vary by provider and location, but current U.S. estimates generally place in-office whitening around $300 to $1,000 per session, laser or light-activated whitening around $500 to $1,200, and dentist-supervised take-home trays around $150 to $600. Ask your dentist which option fits your goals, sensitivity level, existing dental work, and budget.
Veneers are another popular smile-makeover option. These thin, custom-made shells—usually made from porcelain or composite resin—bond to the front surface of teeth to improve the look of stains, chips, gaps, uneven shapes, and some minor alignment concerns. Veneers can create a natural-looking, stain-resistant result, especially with porcelain, but they are not right for everyone. Most traditional veneers require some enamel removal, which usually makes the treatment irreversible, so it is important to work with a licensed dentist and review the risks, benefits, and alternatives first.
Costs vary by material, provider, and location. Current U.S. estimates generally place composite veneers around $250 to $1,500 per tooth, porcelain veneers around $800 to $2,500 per tooth, no-prep or Lumineers-style veneers around $800 to $2,500 per tooth, and zirconia veneers around $1,000 to $2,500 per tooth. Composite veneers often last about five to seven years, while porcelain or no-prep veneers may last about 10 to 20 years with good care. Zirconia veneers may last 15 to 25 years in select cases, but durability depends on bite, grinding habits, oral hygiene, and regular dental visits.
Dental bonding is a small change with a big impact. Using a tooth-colored resin, dentists can repair chips, close small gaps, and even reshape teeth in a single appointment. The procedure is minimally invasive and visibly natural looking. Even better, it’s affordable (on average, up to $400 per tooth). They might last up to 10 years, depending on eating habits.
If you want to straighten teeth without the metal braces at prom look, skip the orthodontic teenager treatment and go with custom-made transparent trays called clear aligners. They’re nearly invisible while you’re wearing them! A gradual straightening takes up to two years. Most people remove them for eating and cleaning, but the cosmetic benefit is noticeable—plus, they can reduce cavities and gum disease. Typical orthodontist-supervised brands cost up to $8,000 on average.
Missing teeth don’t just hurt appearance. They impact how you chew and talk, even your jawbone health. That’s where the gold standard for missing teeth flies in like a superhero: dental implants. Implants restore confidence, look like natural teeth, and can last a lifetime with proper care. The typical cost might be several thousand per tooth, depending on the complexity, and the process takes time, but most say it’s worth it. It’s a long-term solution with a 95 percent success rate!
How do implants work? Your orthodontist needs a base that mimics the function of a natural tooth root before replacement. A titanium post (small screw-like fixture surgically placed into the jawbone) serves that purpose as the artificial tooth root. After the post surgery heals, a crown is attached to create a very natural-looking replacement tooth. Although implants represent a larger investment up front, their longevity often makes them another option for a cost-effective long-term solution.
Are you a good candidate for cosmetic dental treatment? A common misconception is that anyone can choose any cosmetic procedure and move forward right away. In reality, your dentist will evaluate factors such as your overall oral health, gum health, bone density, tooth decay, existing restorations, bite alignment, and lifestyle habits, including smoking. Examples include a patient who is interested in veneers but needs treatment for gum disease first, or someone considering implants who might need bone grafting before placement.
That leads us to the importance of oral health. Just as repainting a house won’t fix a leaking roof, cosmetic improvements don’t work until untreated dental problems are fixed. In other words, any cavities, gum disease, infections, broken fillings, or bite problems need attention first.
During a consultation, ask your dental professional if indeed you are a good candidate for the treatment you seek and what results you can expect. There may be alternative options to consider. Ask how long treatment will take and how long the results will last. Are there risks and limitations? Is there maintenance, aside from regular brushing and flossing? Be sure to ask what the total cost is and if financing is available. Don’t feel rushed into a decision!
It’s important to let your dentist help you set realistic expectations. Celebrity pics, social media, and edited images are not realistic—every case is different. Most dentists advise seeking improvement but not perfection. A natural, healthy smile with functioning teeth is the goal.
Once you’ve achieved your ideal smile, protect your investment with healthy habits. Brush and floss consistently because good oral hygiene is the foundation of a lasting, healthy smile. Keep up with regular cleanings and exams so your dentist can catch small problems before they become bigger ones.
Remember that coffee, tea, red wine, and tobacco can stain teeth. If you drink soda, using a straw may help reduce contact with your teeth. If you grind your teeth, ask about a nightguard to protect veneers, bonding, and natural teeth. Most importantly, follow your dentist’s care instructions. They know how to help your results last.
Today’s cosmetic dentistry offers solutions for almost every smile concern, from minor yellowing to missing teeth or alignment issues. Advanced technology is always moving forward, developing more natural-looking materials or customizable treatments. The best treatment for you isn’t always the most expensive or the most dramatic—it’s whatever aligns with your goals, oral health, timeline, and budget. After all, while a great smile doesn’t solve all of life’s problems, it certainly makes life a little easier!
Sources for this article included: consumeredge.com, pubmed.ncbi.nlm.gov, and ndaonline.org.
By Janette Calabro
Good Looks
Fascia
The Connective Tissue That Connects Everything
You have probably heard of plantar fasciitis, the painful foot condition caused by inflammation of the connective tissue that connects the heel to the toes. What you may not know is that this connective tissue, the fascia, exists throughout the body. Fascia supports muscles, bones, nerves, and tendons everywhere in your body, not just in your foot. When it tightens, it can restrict all of these vital body parts, causing intense pain.
Fascia plays a part in all of our movements. It allows the muscles to stretch and contract, making movement possible. It creates a cushion between your joints and muscles so they can glide without pain. Supple fascia helps with circulation and creates a healthy environment for your body to work. Being able to be active and participate in day-to-day life can only happen if your fascia is in good health. With tight or injured fascia, your stability lessens, coordination weakens, and lack of movement will start to be the norm.
Fascia can be harmed in many ways. Some of the most common ways are dehydration, overuse, poor posture, and injury. Fascia has a lot of sensory nerves and can become inflamed and irritated easily from these actions. There isn’t much room for the inflammation and swelling, which is why a little injury with it can go a long way with causing pain.
Many people confuse muscle pain and joint pain with fascia pain. How do you tell the difference? One way is by noticing what causes the pain to flare up. If movement makes the pain worse, it’s likely a muscle or joint issue. If movement or heat helps to ease the pain, you’re most likely facing a fascia problem. By moving too little in your day-to-day life, you are stiffening up your fascia. Gentle movement helps loosen the tissue, so by moving you are actually helping with the pain.
More is being learned about fascia on the daily, and scientists are realizing how important a function it has in our bodies and well-being. They used to believe it just impacted the muscles, organs, and bones but recently have discovered its impact on cells, joints, ligaments, and more. It used to be believed that this kind of pain was mainly muscle and so that is what was focused on for relieving it. Now that we know it may be fascia causing the pain, we can focus on different solutions.
There are certain everyday activities that can be done to maintain or improve the health of your fascia. These can include drinking the recommended amount of water, practicing yoga, using foam rollers, getting massages, stretching, exercising, and more. Even just walking around for two minutes in between the hours of desk work can help improve fascial flexibility.
Having a strong fascia allows for easier day-to-day movement, better performance in athletics, and—most importantly—lower risk of injury. By stretching out your fascia, you are decreasing your chances of inflaming it and giving your body more structure.
If you are still experiencing pain after practicing these health-conscious options, consider seeing a doctor about the pain. Remember, it isn’t normal to feel pain in your body, and it is important to take that seriously. Your doctor can help guide you to better mobility, less pain, and the ability to enjoy simple things like going on a walk.
Physical therapy may be beneficial, as well, especially after an injury. Your physical therapist can make the recovery process easier and tailor specific exercises to help heal your specific injury. There is even a type of hands-on therapy called myofascial release. It feels like a massage and focuses on putting pressure on various areas of the fascia for 3–5 minutes at a time. When done by a professional, it can make a profound difference with fascial pain.
All in all, maintaining your fascial health may be something you have never thought of before. We are all told to stretch before going on a run or to maintain good posture when sitting at a desk, but we may not know the specific health reasons to do so. If you catch yourself slouching, try to sit up. If you notice that you have been sitting at a desk for hours, get up and walk around for a few minutes. Little practices like those will go a long way in maintaining a happy and healthy lifestyle. Being healthy and happy are the two most attractive things a person can do, so make sure you are taking care of yourself.
Sources for this article included: my.clevelandclinic.org, brownhealth.org, hopkinsmedicine.org, and srosm.com.
By Annabelle Hayes
Income Outcome
An Empty Cup
The Writer/Reader Relationship
“In order to write about life, first you must live it.” — Ernest Hemingway
During my years at sea, I spent countless hours thinking about life. I believed I would someday become a better writer. The truth is, I lacked both the time and the confidence to pursue it. Today, with the encouragement and guidance of my wonderful wife, Janet, I’ve been able to grow as a writer and discover my own voice.
I’ve always believed each of us has the ability to make this world just a little better. If my words can encourage someone to find joy, harmony, peace, resolution, or simply a new perspective, then my writing has fulfilled its purpose. Writing for Women’s Edition has given me the privilege of reaching readers with the hope that something I share may help one of you.
“You can please some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” — Abraham Lincoln
My intention is to share my life experiences in a positive way that offers a different perspective. I understand that not everyone will agree with my thoughts. Each of us has different experiences, beliefs, and opinions. What I ask is that you read each column with an empty cup. My goal is to listen, think, learn, and grow. I hope yours is, too.
“Writers with the gift to touch a reader’s soul can change a life.”— Anonymous
I’ve had the privilege of watching Janet connect with readers for many years. They will walk up to her simply to say, “Thank you,” and share how one of her columns helped them through a difficult time. I now know that writing is far more than putting words on paper—it is about making meaningful connections. For over 40 years, Janet has built relationships with readers throughout our community. Many would be surprised to discover that she is a humble and somewhat shy person who is always quick to give others credit for the magazine’s success. I often think about how blessed I am to be married to such a wonderful woman.
Janet’s vision for Women’s Edition is to connect local businesses with consumers while creating stronger, healthier relationships throughout the community—and, most importantly, to make a positive difference in people’s lives. Over time, I’ve begun to realize that readers become an extended family connected through shared experiences, encouragement, and hope.
To the more than 50,000 loyal readers of Women’s Edition, thank you for allowing us into your lives. Your continued support has made a positive difference in our lives, as well.
As for me, I’m discovering that I have a small but faithful group of readers, and I would like to personally thank each of you for taking the time to read my columns. Your encouragement means more than you know. Of course, a special thank you goes to my beautiful wife and boss, Janet, along with Betsy, Kathy, and Patricia Honeyman of Honeyman Rent-All, for your kindness, encouragement, and unwavering support.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” — Dr. Wayne Dyer
By Manny Chavez
Kids Comments
Summer
Slow-Paced Adventures
Warmer temperatures, longer days, fireworks, and swimming pools are the promise of summer. The sweetness of the first strawberries from local gardens lingers on our lips, and grilled asparagus tastes earthy and fresh. It’s a season when kids can sleep in and stay up late, when time is marked by the rhythm of flip-flops on the sidewalk. Summers are magical!
More joyful memories seem to be created in this sunny season. As I reflect on summers from many years ago, I recall that summer meant freedom. Living in the country, we explored creeks and pastures all day, unsupervised, and we only came in when Mom rang the Wagon triangle bell, which could be heard for miles.
Sunset was our curfew, and we didn’t need a watch or a cell phone to get home on time. We knew exactly how long it took to bike home from many different locations. As the sun got lower, I would hold my thumb lengthwise, even with the horizon; I had 30 minutes for every thumb I could stack.
Of course, summer can also be a time for sports, day camps or sleep-away camps, and family vacations. These days, parents are often trying to balance structured activities and down time for the kids. And, of course, they want to keep kids away from too much mischief or too much screen time.
Summer can be filled with adventure, but it moves at a slower pace. It offers discoveries and new perspectives. Live music echoes in parks and farmers markets. Decks become gathering places as the aroma of barbeque wafts through the air. Ice cream, the go-to dessert, is simply summer in a cone.
What does summer mean? Trips to the lake, story time at the library, rhubarb crisp by the spoonful. Running through the sprinkler, tanking in the river, stargazing on a warm night. Eating s’mores by a campfire, jumping into the pool, screaming on a rollercoaster.
Sadly, adults may come to view summer as a time of road construction and mowing lawns. To me, freshly cut grass smells like fresh watermelon…I may have meshed two childhood memories together.
Summer belongs to the children—both the chronologically young and the child within every adult. It’s a season to believe in the unbelievable while blowing dandelion seeds of wishes. It brings out the adventure and silliness in all of us. On a sweltering day, what adult wouldn’t join in a water balloon fight if asked? It’s a chance to rediscover the child within us.
Try to catch fireflies, zigzagging in the dark. Experience the awe in sunsets at the lake, laugh when you get splashed by a cannonball at the pool. The whimsy of summer can calm our souls and delight the child in all of us.
By Tracy Bellamy
Interiors By Design
From Chaos to Clarity
The Magic of Professional Organizers
In today’s busy world, clutter can accumulate quickly. Whether it’s overflowing closets, crowded garages, disorganized offices, or piles of paperwork, excess belongings and lack of organization can create frustration and stress. Professional organizers help individuals, families, and businesses regain control of their spaces by creating practical systems that make daily life easier and more efficient.
Professional organizers work with clients to assess their space, identify challenges, and develop customized solutions for managing belongings, time, and routines. Their goal is not simply to make a space look neat, but to create sustainable systems that support the client’s lifestyle.
Professional organizers help clients sort through possessions, determine what should be kept, donated, recycled, or discarded, and establish logical storage methods. They also teach organizational habits that make it easier to maintain order long after the project is complete. Unlike a cleaning service, which focuses on sanitation, or an interior decorator, who focuses on aesthetics and design, a professional organizer focuses on functionality and efficiency.
People seek professional organizing services for many reasons, including major life changes like downsizing to a smaller home, preparing a home for sale, managing chronic clutter, organizing after a major life transition, or preparing for a new baby. Some people simply need guidance in creating efficient home offices, managing busy family schedules, or organizing garages, basements, and storage areas.
Research has shown that clutter can have a significant impact on mental well-being. Visual clutter constantly competes for your attention, making it more difficult to focus and relax. Clutter may contribute to increased stress and anxiety, reduced productivity, difficulty concentrating, and feelings of frustration and embarrassment. When spaces become more organized, many people experience a greater sense of control, calm, and confidence. An organized environment can support better habits, improve time management, and enhance overall well-being.
It can be hard to determine where to begin. A professional organizer provides guidance, structure, and accountability throughout the process. A consultation is typically the first step. The organizer evaluates the space, discusses the client’s goals, and identifies specific problem areas. They may ask questions such as what areas cause the most frustration, what isn’t working, and what are the long-term goals. This consultation helps establish priorities and allows the organizer to create a personalized plan. Clients also have the opportunity to discuss budgets, timelines, and expectations before the project begins.
One of the greatest benefits of hiring a professional organizer is their ability to create systems that are easy to maintain. Rather than focusing on perfection, organizers develop solutions that work with a client’s natural habits and lifestyle.
The organizer starts by sorting, reviewing, and categorizing. Clients make decisions about which items to keep, donate, recycle, or discard. Storage zones are created, using labels and visual cues, streamlined inventory systems, and simple filing systems. Daily and weekly maintenance routines are created, and clients learn strategies for maintaining the newly organized space and preventing future clutter. Throughout the project, the organizer acts as a coach and problem solver, helping clients make decisions and stay focused.
Many people confuse organizing with cleaning or decorating, but they serve very different purposes. Cleaning focuses on removing dirt, dust, and grime. A clean room can still be cluttered and difficult to use. Decorating focuses on aesthetics, furniture, colors, and visual appeal. A beautifully decorated space can still lack functionality.
Organizing focuses on structure, efficiency, and ease of use. It addresses how items are stored, accessed, and maintained. While these services often complement one another, professional organizing addresses the root causes of disorder rather than simply improving appearance.
Not all organizers offer the same services or experience. When selecting a professional organizer, consider things like training and certifications, years of experience, client testimonials and reviews, areas of specialization, and insurance and business credentials. Ask for examples of previous projects and discuss the organizer’s approach to ensure it aligns with your goals and comfort level.
Maintaining organization requires ongoing effort, but it becomes much easier when effective systems are in place. As previously mentioned, your organizer will offer some maintenance strategies, but here are some general tips. Start by returning items to their designated homes after use. Schedule regular decluttering sessions and follow the organizational routines established during the project. Reevaluate systems periodically as needs change. The goal is not perfection but consistency. Small daily habits can prevent clutter from building up again.
Hiring a professional organizer is an investment in both your space and your peace of mind. Beyond creating tidy rooms, professional organizers help develop systems that improve efficiency and support a more functional lifestyle. A professional organizer can provide the expertise and support needed to transform chaos into clarity.
Sources for this article included: myspacematters.com, nytimes.com, and bobvila.com.
By Loretta McCollum
Home Works
Bugged By Pests?
How to Keep Them Out
Nobody likes unexpected houseguests, especially the kind with a lot of legs. Most homeowners will eventually encounter an insect pest or two, and knowing what attracts insects and how to spot trouble early can make a big difference. A few simple habits can go a long way toward keeping your home comfortable, clean, and pest-free. Let’s take a closer look at some of the most common household pests and what you can do to keep them from moving in.
We’ll start by meeting some of the neighborhood pests, none of which are created equal. Some are merely annoying, while others can damage your home or create health concerns. Read on and then go have a nice glass of wine.
Bed bugs are expert hitchhikers that often arrive after travel or from secondhand furniture. They typically hide in mattresses, box springs, bed frames, and upholstered furniture. They are notoriously hard to eradicate.
Spiders, on the other hand, prefer quiet, undisturbed spaces such as basements, garages, attics, and closets. Most of them are afraid of humans and would just as soon stay out of your way. Though most spiders are harmless, their presence often signals that other insects are nearby. (In fact, many spiders eat other insects.)
On to one that gives many of us the heebie-jeebies: millipedes. With the appearance of many legs and body segments, they look like something from a horror movie. These non-venomous moisture lovers frequently appear in damp basements, showers, and sinks, or around foundations after heavy rains.
You can find termites or carpenter ants hidden behind walls, under flooring, or around the wood pile stacked in the back yard. Termites are very destructive, feeding on wood and causing significant damage. Carpenter ants don’t eat wood, but rather tunnel through to create nesting galleries.
Cockroaches are scavengers who thrive where food and water are easy to find. Unfortunately, they feed on just about anything, including garbage and other decaying matter. Their adventurous appetites make them highly adaptable and hard to get rid of. If you see one, you can be sure that more are nearby.
If your pets go outside, you might encounter a flea or two. They spread quickly, especially in carpets, furniture, and bedding. Fleas don’t prefer humans, but they’re happy to bite you if you’re around.
What about wasps or bees? They prefer outdoor living but often build nests under eaves, decks, porches, and sheds, or in wall voids near entry points. That means they can sneak in quickly through an open door.
Insects rarely announce their arrival indoors, but they do leave clues. It’s best to spot the warning signs and take them seriously.
Early indicators of bed bugs include small reddish stains on bedding, shed skins, or itchy bite marks. Spider infestations are often signaled by an increase in webs, especially in corners, ceilings, and storage areas. Millipedes are usually easy to identify because homeowners may suddenly notice several indoors after wet weather.
Red flags for termites are the inevitable mud tubes they leave behind, hollow-sounding wood, discarded wings, or bubbling paint that resembles water damage. Carpenter ants often leave small piles of wood shavings near nesting areas and may be seen traveling in trails.
Cockroaches run when the lights come on, but you’ll probably catch a glimpse. They leave droppings, unpleasant odors, egg cases, and occasionally smear marks along walls or baseboards. And those seemingly harmless fleas usually become obvious when pets begin scratching excessively or you spot them on white socks and bouncing from the carpets. No longer harmless! As for wasps, they often fly near an area where they’re nesting.
To combat pests, think prevention. Good housekeeping, regular vacuuming, cleaning counters, and cleaning up pet food can all help keep insects at bay. Keep moisture control in check with defensive strategies like a dehumidifier. Keep the bathrooms, laundry rooms, basement, and crawl spaces ventilated. Seal cracks around windows, doors, and foundations. Tiny gaps are a welcome sign for intruders! Firewood, mulch, and vegetation can shelter pests in the yard, so keep these items away from the foundation.
Pests are often best handled by professionals who have the right tools and treatment methods. Termites and bed bugs, for example, are almost never eliminated without professional help. Cockroaches are also known for returning if the problem is not treated thoroughly. Fleas often require targeted solutions to stop the infestation and prevent it from coming back. Professional pest control can provide peace of mind by creating a customized treatment plan and offering follow-up visits when needed.
Small habits can make a big difference. The only visitors at your door should be the ones you actually invited!
Sources for this article included: epa.gov, pestworld.org, and entomologist.net.
By Janette Calabro
To Your Good Health
National Wellness Month
Five Wellness Myths It’s Time to Leave Behind
On any given morning, many women are helping their children get ready for the day, scheduling a doctor’s appointment for an aging parent, checking in with a sibling facing health challenges, heading to work, volunteering, or squeezing two more errands into an already packed schedule. By the time evening arrives, she has spent hours caring for everyone else and very little time caring for herself. For many women, wellness falls to the bottom of an already crowded to-do list. That’s why National Wellness Month, observed each August, serves as an important reminder that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it is essential.
National Wellness Month encourages people to focus on self-care, stress management, and healthy habits that support long-term well-being and healthy aging. Wellness is more than physical health. It is a dynamic blend of physical, emotional, social, intellectual, spiritual, environmental, financial, and occupational well-being. Together, these dimensions influence how we feel, function, and thrive throughout life.
Despite knowing that wellness matters, many women struggle to make it a priority. Several common myths may be part of the reason.
Myth #1: Wellness Requires a Major Overhaul
Most of us don’t have the time, energy, or desire to completely reinvent our lives in the name of wellness, but we don’t have to. Healthy living is less about dramatic transformation and more about small, everyday choices. Taking a short walk after dinner, drinking more water, eating a few more vegetables, or giving yourself 10 minutes to slow down and recharge can all make a difference over time.
Instead of setting lofty goals that are hard to maintain, focus on one or two healthy habits you can realistically stick with. Those small steps may not feel life-changing in the moment, but over months and years, they can have a powerful impact on your health and well-being.
Myth #2: Physical Health and Mental Health Are Separate
We have all felt it after a restless night: less patience, less energy, and a harder time focusing on the tasks ahead. Chronic stress can contribute to high blood pressure, heart disease, and other health concerns. Regular physical activity, on the other hand, can improve mood, reduce anxiety, and boost overall well-being.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, regular physical activity supports both physical and mental health. These connections become even more important as we age. Exercise, quality sleep, stress management, and social engagement all play important roles in supporting healthy aging and maintaining a high quality of life.
Myth #3: Self-Care Is Too Expensive
Social media can make wellness seem expensive, filled with supplements, retreats, and subscription services. Fortunately, some of the most effective forms of self-care are simple and inexpensive.
Taking a walk through your neighborhood, spending time in a local park, reading a good book, tending a garden, attending a faith service, journaling, or meeting a friend for coffee can all help reduce stress and improve emotional well-being. True self-care is not about spending money. It is about intentionally creating moments that restore your energy.
Myth #4: You Can Catch Up on Your Health When You’re Not So Busy
Preventive health care remains one of the most important tools for protecting long-term health. Annual physical exams, routine screenings, vaccinations, blood pressure checks, and other preventive services can help identify health concerns before they become serious.
According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, preventive care can help detect conditions early, when treatment is often most successful. Preventive health care is also a key part of healthy aging, helping women maintain their health, independence, and quality of life for years to come.
Many women spend so much time caring for others that they postpone their own appointments. National Wellness Month is an ideal opportunity to schedule those overdue screenings and make your personal health a priority.
Myth #5: Wellness Is a Lonely Journey
Friends and family can support each other’s healthy lifestyles by preparing healthy meals together, taking evening walks, encouraging physical activity, and creating healthy routines at home. They can also provide accountability and encouragement when motivation begins to fade.
Research shows that strong social connections contribute to both emotional well-being and healthy aging. Staying connected to family, friends, faith communities, and volunteer activities can help reduce isolation while supporting overall health.
Wellness isn’t about becoming a different person overnight. It’s about making intentional choices that support physical, mental, and emotional health, one day at a time. Whether that means taking a daily walk, scheduling an overdue health screening, getting more sleep, or simply giving yourself permission to slow down, every small step matters.
Sources for this article included: health.gov, nia.nih.gov, and nasm.org.
By Leslie Byrne
401(k) Investing for Newbies & Nerds
Is Your 401(k) Up to Par?
That Depends on Par Itself
I recently attended a charity fundraiser. After signing in, I took my assigned seat, and soon afterwards my table mate arrived. We exchanged pleasantries, and the conversation quickly turned to golf. She explained to me that she had taken dozens of expensive golf lessons with a local golf pro to improve her handicap, but she had still not been able to get into the single-digit range. (For those of you who don’t golf: A handicap of 0 means that your average score is par. A handicap of 15 means that your average score is 15 strokes more than par.) Then a fellow golfer heard her plight and suggested a free online video for her to watch. Two months later, her handicap plummeted to 7.
The discussion then turn to turned to a topic closer to my wheelhouse: 401(k)s. My table mate explained to me that she had had a similar experience with her 401(k). For several years, she felt her account was doing poorly. Then a coworker told her about a red hot mutual fund. She bought a bunch of it and her returns suddenly and dramatically improved.
You may notice that in the tale of her golf handicap, she provided a great deal of specificity. She knew exactly what her handicap was before and after watching the video. She had a precise number for her desired score. But as I quizzed her about her 401(k)’s performance, she failed to produce exact numbers, just vague generalities and feelings. She had no clue as to how the market had performed for the past several years. She had no idea what was an acceptable rate of return, given her limited 401(k) options.
As the conversation continued, I felt befuddled by the fact that a person in her position knew so much about her golf score and so little about the performance of her greatest financial asset. However, having spent five decades of my life talking to people about their finances, I knew that this was not a one-off situation. Happens all the time.
Later that evening, as I replayed my earlier conversation, I thought, how could I advise this person on a more analytical and less emotional approach to her retirement dollars?
The first thing to impress upon her is that investing is not a one-size-fits-all proposition. “Par” for one 401(k) participant may be significantly different than par for another participant. Before she could bring her 401(k) up to par, she would have to decide what par means for her.
For some 401(k) participants, par means maximizing their investment return. These individuals are always looking for the hottest once-in-a-lifetime investment opportunity. They are willing to put forth the time and effort to become fully engaged in the management of their 401(k) account. Par, for this group, is often defined as beating the market.
Other 401(k) participants are less tolerant of risk and are not interested in devoting long hours to managing their account. Their approach is less hands-on, and they are willing to accept less than maximum returns in return for less volatility. They have a long-term time horizon and acknowledge that their investment skills are somewhat limited. Par for this group is average stock market returns.
Then, there are those who could care less about the money and are willing to let whatever happens, happen. They are open to taking their plan’s default option, which can either be an expensive target date fund or a low-return money market fund. This group has no par.
The law requires that 401(k) participants manage their own account by selecting from a menu of mutual funds provided by their plan administrator. This means that your employer and the plan administrator and the financial advisor together assume the role of a golf course groundskeeper.
They have the authority to place the flagstick in the location of their choosing. They can play nice and place it in an easy spot. Or they can play hardball, making par difficult to achieve.
The ability to shoot par in your 401(k) requires a respectful relationship between employees and employers. It is a two-way street that requires constant and forthright communication. It is also one that requires a reasonable amount of continuing education.
The financial world, and the 401(k) infrastructure in particular, is in a period of accelerated evolution. The Trump administration has initiated regulations that will dramatically expand the types of assets available to 401(k) investors, including such exotic asset classes as crypto currency and private equity. At the same time, the major discount brokers are competing for the exploding number of 401(k) dollars with new products and programs that are more cost-efficient.
Your 401(k) is the gift that keeps on giving. How much it gives and how long it gives, is up to you.
Editor’s Note: George Morgan has five decades’ experience in all phases of the investment process. He is currently the Founder and Principal of Morgan Investor Education. His website is morganinvestoreducation.com.
The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. To determine which investments may be appropriate for you, consult your financial advisor prior to investing.
By George Morgan
Seasons of Life
Benefits of Pre-Planning Final Services
Proactive Decisions Reduce Stress for Loved Ones
If you have ever made arrangements after a loved one’s passing, you know how difficult it can be. Making major decisions while experiencing the grief of loss can be overwhelming. Knowing this, more people than ever are proactively planning their own final services.
It is one of the kindest things you can do for your family because it relieves them from making difficult choices at a trying time. I have made arrangements under both circumstances, one having no pre-planning and another with explicit written instructions. The latter was, by far, the better experience.
Funeral homes typically have a specialist to help with pre-planning by appointment. Some have online questionnaires or forms to help us get organized. An early decision is often whether to have a traditional funeral, a memorial service, or a celebration of life.
A conventional funeral service has familiar basics: music, the reading of a eulogy, perhaps scripture and message. A funeral is often held in a house of worship or in the chapel of a funeral home, and a reception typically follows. There might be an open or closed casket. Funerals generally happen soon after a death.
Memorial services may be similar to a funeral, with a eulogy, religious elements, and remembrance. Usually, the body has already been cared for and so is not present. Some time may have passed between the death and a memorial service, and it is often less formal than a traditional funeral.
Celebration of life arrangements may include some of the same components as funeral or memorial services. That is up to the person doing the planning. The setting is often more informal. As the name suggests, it is typically a more festive atmosphere.
No matter what type of service is planned, the aim is to provide friends and family with an opportunity to give and receive comfort and support. It is a time to remember and honor their loved one.
When you plan your own final service, you relieve pressure on your family and ensure that the arrangements more accurately reveal your individuality. You can even choose to pre-pay for your final services, thereby relieving loved ones of one more concern.
The variety of options we have now motivates more people than ever to pre-plan. Cremation has become vastly more popular. Whether one chooses traditional embalming and burial or cremation is an essential decision and affects many of the other service choices.
Cremation is often less costly and may be more environmentally friendly. Burials may be more traditional or provide a stronger sense of closure. One can even choose a combination: a traditional funeral with viewing, then cremation. With cremation comes the question of how to handle the ashes. Options include keeping them in an urn at home, scattering them somewhere meaningful, or interring them in a cemetery.
Strong feelings about burial or cremation are a great reason to pre-plan. Anyone who has a strong preference should make their wishes known instead of burdening loved ones with the pressure of guessing.
The best pre-plan is in writing, and at least two people should know where to find it. The importance of discussing your plans with family cannot be overstated. If you have specific desires, share the details! Even sharing just the basics can prevent your loved ones from speculating or—even worse—disagreeing about your final services.
When pre-paying, consider carefully. While this type of arrangement alleviates financial issues for survivors, care must be taken when contracting for a service in the future.
It is essential to understand such things as: What happens if I move? What costs are guaranteed and which can increase later? Can I cancel later; if so, how much is refundable? Pre-paying may be advantageous for some, locking in costs, but there may be other considerations, as well. One might have a preferred funeral home or crematory, but others may want to shop around. By law, funeral homes will provide a General Price List so fees for basic services can be separated from optional items. A reputable firm will make sure all charges are clear.
An important part of pre-planning also involves such things as power of attorney, will, advance directive, and other legal documents. A reputable attorney can assist with these important documents. Make sure family members know where to find them.
Loved ones will be grateful for any efforts to make their decisions easier. When my brother suffered a fatal heart attack quite unexpectedly, it was extremely helpful to have clear, written instructions along with all the necessary legal work in order. Pre-planning is definitely a great kindness but also ensures a true reflection of the person being honored.
Sources for this article included: aarp.org, funeral.com, and rememberingalife.com.
By Linda Barnes
Peak Performance
Life Coaching
Achieve Your Goals With Professional Help
We have all heard the term “life coach,” but what does it mean and why would you want to consider hiring one? A life coach is a wellness professional who helps individuals achieve success in different areas of life. They work with their clients to set goals, overcome obstacles, and leverage their own personal strengths for fulfillment and long-term growth.
Life coaching sometimes gets confused with mentoring, consulting, or even counseling. One of the ways to wade through the fog and figure out what you really might need is to ask yourself a few telling questions. Do you need someone to show you how to build your business? Then you probably need a business consultant. Do you need someone to teach you how to perform a new skill? Then you probably need a mentor or a teacher. Do you need help with processing something difficult from your past? Then you probably need a counselor. Do you want to figure out how best to use your own strengths to achieve greater personal satisfaction in your life? Then you probably need a life coach.
Life coaching emerged in the 1980s and became more popular in the 1990s and 2000s. It initially focused on life planning but later expanded to cover finances, careers, health, and even relationships.
Life coaches can help you clarify your goals and identify what obstacles could be holding you back. They can come up with strategies to overcome each obstacle that you might encounter. In recent years, life coaches have gained more mainstream recognition. A growing number of professionals are now turning to life coaches to help them attain success in both their personal and professional lives.
One of the benefits of working with a life coach is the ability to gain a fresh, informed perspective on the problems that you face. Besides offering you new insight into your challenges, a life coach can help you identify the negative patterns that may be standing in the way of your success.
Coaching can benefit clients in so many ways. One of the best ways is maintaining a work-life balance. We all have had that feeling of not being at our best at home or at work, and a life coach can definitely help with that. They can enhance your creativity and improve your communication skills to give you a more satisfying work life and stronger relationships with friends and family.
If you decide that seeing a life coach is right for you, don’t expect immediate results. Coaches can help you address problems, make plans, and work toward achieving goals. But it is important to remember that these goals take time and patience. Keep your expectations realistic.
When choosing a life coach, you need to find one who is suited to your particular needs. Not all life coaches approach problems in the same way, and what you get out of the experience can have a lot to do with the type of relationship you have with your coach. Look for a coach who is suited to working with your personality type.
Life coaching sessions can take many different forms. Some coaches meet with their clients in person, while others may conduct their sessions over the phone or Zoom. After each session, you should feel empowered and uplifted, so make sure that you choose a coach that resonates with your style and philosophy.
When interviewing a prospective life coach, your goal is to assess their experience, methodology, and communication style to make sure they are the right fit for you. Do they have experience with career changes, work-life balance, or relationship building? Do they act more as a reflective thought partner or as a directive mentor? What does the structure of a typical session look like? Is there work to be done outside of the sessions? How do they keep you on the accountability track? It is very important that the coach you choose aligns with your goals.
What are realistic expectations from a life coach? You should expect to have clarity with manageable step-by-step goals as well as a clear system of accountability. You should expect regular check-ins and reviews with your coach and actionable strategies. This will help you find your own solutions and develop better problem-solving skills.
Coaching is not a magic fix for any problem, and a life coach will not do the work for you. Although it is a partnership, you are the person responsible for executing the changes. You will get the most value from your coaching sessions when you can break through personal plateaus and move forward on a personal development journey. A life coach is an action-oriented accountability partner.
Sources for this article included: verywellmind.com, gcu.edu, and positivepsychology.com.
By Linda Sutherland
Auto Wise
Used Car Shopping
More Than Just Kicking the Tires
Whether you are looking for a used car for yourself or for your first-time teenage driver, being educated will give you the advantage you need to control the negotiations. Don’t walk in without learning about the car you’re hoping to buy! Arrive prepared to negotiate the best price. The vehicle may be used, but it’s still new to you.
Set a realistic budget that includes insurance, maintenance, fuel, and other ownership costs. Insurance rates depend on the vehicle as well as the driver’s age and driving record. Be sure to account for upfront costs such as dealer fees, taxes, and registration. If you’re planning to finance your purchase, getting pre-approved for a loan before you shop can strengthen your negotiating position and show sellers that you are a serious buyer.
Once you set your budget, research vehicles that fit your needs and lifestyle. Consider how the car will serve you now and in the future. Do you need room for a growing family? Is this a second car for a spouse who only drives occasionally? Are these new-to-you wheels for a new driver who needs strong safety features? To compare reliable models and resale values, use JD Power Values, Kelley Blue Book, or Edmunds Car Value. These are trusted sources that can tell you the value of different used vehicles.
Never skip the test drive. If you’re test-driving more than one car, drive them all on the same day, if you can—it’s even better to drive them on the same route, for the most direct comparison. Plan for each test drive to take 30 minutes; you’ll need time to drive on different road types and at various speeds. Pay close attention to squeaks and rattles. Does the car pull to one side, smell of mildew or mold, or have paint overspray on the body? All of these items can indicate previous damage.
Inspect the car by walking around the exterior. Look for signs of wear and tear, check the tires, and ensure that all features are functioning. You should also review the Vehicle History Report, which shows details of reported crashes, maintenance records, and the number of owners the vehicle has had. This report should be paid for and provided to you by the seller. If not, you can order a CarFax report for roughly $45 using the car’s VIN.
Do not rely solely on the report. The VHR is a snapshot of what has been reported to insurance companies, but not all drivers report all damage to their insurance companies. There could also be a time delay between reporting to an insurance company and being added to the VHR.
When purchasing a used car, it is highly recommended to have a pre-purchase inspection done by a trusted mechanic. This would be done at your cost, but you may be able to negotiate that in the terms of the sale. Either way, it will be worth the cost, which will likely be a couple hundred dollars. If the dealership won’t let the car leave the lot, you’ll need to schedule an on-site inspection.
When purchasing a used car, people always start by asking how many miles are on the car. The automotive industry standards set the benchmark for annual mileage at 12,000 to 15,000 miles. Some cars can exceed 200,000 miles with proper maintenance, making 100,000 miles a common milestone rather than the end of the car’s life.
Not all miles are equal. Constant stop-and-go city traffic can cause greater wear per mile on key components than steady highway driving. This is where the history of car use is helpful. You should also consider the maintenance history report. A well-maintained car is likely to cost you less in the long run, regardless of mileage.
Before you start the negotiation process, inspect the safety features. Electronic Stability Control helps prevent skidding and loss of control. This is huge if you purchase a car for a teenager. Anti-lock brakes help maintain steering during hard braking and help on ice-packed or snow-covered roads.
Multiple airbags (front, side, and curtain) are necessary for the safety of driver and passengers. Backup cameras are standard in newer cars and are helpful with parking and awareness when backing up. A strong crash-test rating is vital! Look for 4 to 5 stars from the National Highway Safety Administration (NHTSA) or a “good” rating from the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety (IIHS).
Once you have negotiated the price, review all paperwork carefully before signing anything. Remember that you oversee the negotiation process, so be ready to walk away if it doesn’t meet your standards.
Sources for this article included: kbb.com, consumerreports.org, and consumeraffairs.com.
By Kris Pryor
The Good Life
Eye Exams
A Necessity for the Entire Family
Before a new school year begins is the perfect time to schedule eye exams for the entire family. Eye health is important for every family member to ensure they can perform at their best.
According to the College of Optometrists in Vision Development, 25 percent of children in the United States have vision problems. Many are not detected in school vision screenings. Vision screening programs are intended to identify indicated vision issues and refer affected individuals for evaluation. Vision screenings are useful to detect issues like myopia or severe amblyopia but should not take the place of a comprehensive eye exam.
Children should be seen by an eyecare professional once between six and 12 months of age, before first grade, and once a year thereafter. A child’s comprehensive eye exam will include testing for visual acuity, lazy eye, 3-D vision, eye turns, eye tracking, convergence, color vision, and ocular health. The eye doctor may assess visual skills to identify issues like convergence insufficiency, focusing difficulties, poor depth perception, and visual processing issues. Eye exams facilitate early detection and treatment of vision problems, and they help to ensure that your child’s eyes and vision are developing properly.
According to the World Health Organization, 2.2 billion people worldwide have some type of vision impairment. Approximately half of those cases could have been prevented or addressed early if sufficient technology had been available.
Keratometry measures the curvature of the cornea. This measurement is crucial to determine the proper fit for contact lenses. Refractions measure the lens power needed to correct nearsightedness, farsightedness, and astigmatism. Using a phoropter, the doctor places a series of lenses in front of your eyes. The doctor measures how the lenses focus using a handheld lighted instrument. The lens power is then refined by the patient’s input (that’s when the doctor asks, “Which is clearer? Option 1 or option 2?”). Adults aged 18 to 64 years should have an examination every two years. Those 65 and older should schedule an eye exam annually.
New eye exam technology provides the most accurate optical measurements, as well as a more sophisticated, detailed view of the structural areas of the eye. Some of the top digital eye exams include digital phoropters instead of manual ones that rely heavily on the provider setting the data.
Clarifye is a multi-step, comprehensive, digital eye exam that maps the entire eye for personalized diagnosis and treatment. It tests visual accuracy, detects glaucoma and macular degeneration, evaluates night vision, provides patients with educational tools, and delivers accurate contact lens prescriptions.
AI-powered diagnostic tools have been FDA-cleared to detect diabetic retinopathy. From a single image of each retina, the AI algorithm can identify potential disease signals and help detect disease before symptoms appear. Results are immediate and no dilation is needed.
Optical Coherence Tomography (OCT) is a non-invasive, painless test using light waves to create a 3-D, colored, cross-sectional image of the retina and the interior of the eye. Such images allow for the quick detection of conditions like glaucoma or macular degeneration.
Digital retinal imaging is a non-invasive way to create ultra-wide images of the retina. This aids in diagnosing diseases such as diabetic retinopathy and glaucoma. Advanced visual field testing assesses peripheral vision to detect blind spots and other indicators of disease. There are no eye drops required; the patient simply places their chin in a comfortable chin rest.
An adult comprehensive eye and vision examination may include patient history, medication list, environmental conditions, and family history. They will test visual acuity, which is how clearly each eye can see. This portion of the eye exam includes the familiar reading chart on the wall. Results are written in a fraction like 20/40. (That means that the person must be within 20 feet to read what should be clearly seen at 40 feet away.)
Healthy habits like eating well and being active can lower your risk of eye disease and conditions like diabetes or high blood pressure that can lead to eye or vision problems. Smoking increases your risk of macular degeneration and cataracts, so it’s healthier for your eyes if you quit.
Wear sunglasses with 99 to 100 percent protection of UVA and UVB radiation whenever you’re outside, even on cloudy days. Wear protective eyewear for work and participating in sporting activities. Give your eyes a rest while reading or using your phone (take a 20 second break every 20 minutes). Take proper care of contact lenses by disinfecting them as directed and washing your hands before putting them in or taking them out. Simple safety steps can protect your eyes from disease or injury.
Sources for this article included: aoa.org, getweave.com, nei.nih.gov, and optometrists.org.
By Laureen Vernon
Great Escapes
Croatia
“I Hear It’s Beautiful!”
Let me just start out by saying that I finally made it to Croatia, and it was one of the most beautiful places I have ever been. Definitely in the top three of places that I have visited. The water, whether it was a lake or the Adriatic Sea, was a gorgeous turquoise color. And waterfalls were aplenty! Let my recent trip inspire you to visit this beautiful country.
My husband and I first flew into Zagreb, the capital city of Croatia. While the local language is Croatian, many people easily speak English, so it was a very comfortable transition. We stayed in Lower Town near Lenuci Horseshoe, where we started taking photos right away. (We never really stopped.)
Zagreb is very walkable, but if you prefer, you can always hop on a bus or tram to get around. We spent a day exploring Upper Town, visiting the bustling Dolac Market, Ban Jelačić Square, and St. Mark’s Square. We walked up the narrow roads to check out Lotrščak Tower and then took the funicular down. We got to enjoy the views and give our tired feet a little rest.
The next day, we got up early to go to Maksimir Park, the oldest and (according to many locals) most beautiful park in Zagreb. And beautiful it was! Huge trees shaded many of the trails as we walked to the different lakes. The blue skies and calm weather made for the perfect reflections on the water, including the colorful Mandarin ducks. We picnicked on a bench in front of the water and spotted tiny frogs—as small as your pinky fingernail—along the paths.
The next destination on our list was Plitvice Lakes National Park, about two hours away by car. Before we got there, though, we made a “quick” stop at a small town along the river called Rastoke (also known as “Little Plitvice”). What a treat! It was gorgeous! Again, we took photo after photo because everything was so beautiful and so different from where we came from. It had started to rain, which scared everyone away, but we had an umbrella, so we stayed out. It felt like we had the whole place to ourselves! We went to see the watermill and saw more than a dozen waterfalls as we walked the trails.
The next day took us to Plitvice Lakes National Park, where we opted for the 4–6 hour route that would allow us to see almost everything. This route included walking, bus ride, and boat ride, and it was another jaw-dropping experience. I have never seen water so turquoise and beautiful. Everywhere you turned was another gorgeous photo opportunity. And then there was waterfall after waterfall! We kept shaking our heads, thinking, how much beauty in nature can we handle?
Next stop: Opatija. This is where our yacht cruise departed from; we chose the “Breathtaking Croatia” itinerary. We were on the Deluxe ship, MV Aquamarin, and it did not disappoint! There were only 26 passengers and it felt like our own private yacht. The food and staff were amazing. Everyone we talked to on board had been to Croatia multiple times and they return every year. I think we are going to join that club!
Our route was from Opatija to Trogir, which is the northern part of the Croatian coast. The passengers who had cruised it before all commented how much they liked it compared to the southern part. It is not as touristy, they told us, and a lot quieter. We saw a different town every day and enjoyed swim stops along the way. It was such a fun and relaxing vacation.
After disembarking in Trogir, we used Bolt (the European rideshare app) to get to Split. Now I understood what the others were saying about the crowds. Here they were! Regardless, we joined everyone else in meandering around Diocletian’s Palace with gelato in hand. After the lady at the Split Ethnographic Museum convinced us it was worth checking out, we climbed up to the top and were rewarded with panoramic views of the city and the opportunity to peer down into the vestibule of Diocletian’s Palace…we even timed it right to watch the singers below.
I could go on and on; it was a wonderful trip to Croatia. While we saw a lot, we left plenty to see later when we return. The best times to visit are early June or late September, when the kids are in school and the crowds are smaller, but anytime you can go, just do it! Call your travel agent and have them set you up for a fantastic holiday. Croatia is absolutely beautiful!
Sources for this article included: croatia.hr, kukuvia.com, and katarina-line.com.
Editor’s Note: Jackie has been a freelance writer since 2006. Her work has appeared in publications including Colorado Golf, Desert Golf, and Canadian Architecture & Design. Her blogs can be found at BoardandRide.com and the luxury and adventure travel website, ArtofTripping.com.
By Jackie Williams
The Green Thumb
The Lazy Gardener
Don’t Overthink It!
The first lazy gardening tip I can suggest is to plant wildflowers. Yes, wildflowers! The bees and the butterflies will love them, and it is relatively inexpensive to plant a wildflower garden. People are starting to embrace the idea that a more naturalistic garden design is preferable to neat rows of flowers and shrubs.
If a wildflower garden sounds intriguing to you, you should start by picking a good spot. It should be sunny—at least six hours of full sun a day. There are a few shade-tolerant wildflowers, but the majority prefer blazing, hot sun.
Next, you need to weed the garden bed before sowing seeds. This step is a must and cannot be skipped! Weeds can choke out your wildflowers, especially when they are first becoming established. Gently till the soil after weeding. If you want enhance it with a little fertilizer, add it now and then rake it level.
Spread a wildflower seed mix that is specifically designed to work in your hardiness zone and area. Not all wildflowers grow wild in all areas! I recommend choosing a mix that contains both annuals and perennials. When you have scattered the seeds, make sure to water thoroughly. If you keep the soil moist (not super wet), you should see blooms in five to six weeks.
Don’t get me wrong: Wildflower gardens are not completely maintenance-free, but they are sure easier to maintain than a cottage garden or an English garden. Make sure that you water the blooms during dry spells to keep your wildflower garden in good condition. You can weed occasionally and deadhead blooms to keep them flowering all season long. Once fall comes, mow or cut the wildflowers back to four to six inches tall. This will help seed heads to drop and make it look neater. There really is no downside to planting a wildflower garden!
My second idea for lazy gardeners is to plant flowers and herbs in pots or raised beds. You will have absolute control over your growing environment, and you are not limited by poor native dirt. If you use a compost mix or soil designated for pots and beds, you won’t need mulch and can still control the weeds very easily. These mixes contain vitamins and nutrients that plants need to thrive, and they usually do very well.
One of my favorite things about container gardening is mobility! You can chase the sun with pots or tuck them away to protect them from damaging storms or unexpected frost. And if you have to move for some reason, you can take your garden with you.
Pots can be placed on tables outside, patios, shelves, windowsills, or plant stands to make access to them easy and convenient. And when you use fresh potting soil each season, you avoid most soil-borne weeds and diseases.
My third lazy gardener tip is to use mulch. In some respects, it actually does the gardening for you. With a two-to-three-inch layer of organic material (wood chips, straw, or leaves), you can cut down your physical labor and let nature maintain your plants. Mulch acts as a barrier and blocks the sunlight that weed seeds need to germinate. It smothers new weeds before they can sprout! Mulch can act as a barrier against certain pests and soil-borne diseases making their way into your vegetables and flowers.
Bare soil loses moisture very rapidly, but a layer of mulch helps keep the moisture in the soil. Mulch also acts much like an insulating blanket. In the summer heat, it keeps plant roots cool; in the winter, it traps heat to protect sensitive roots from harsh weather and frost. That said, make sure not to apply more than a few inches of mulch. You want a light rain shower to be able to reach the root system of your plants.
Keep in mind that many wood or bark mulches sold in bags are color-enhanced. That means the manufacturer has used dyes of some kind to make the mulch darker. If you’re a chemical-free gardener, look for all-natural mulch, instead. Many garden centers sell all-natural mulch in bulk, which is less expensive than buying it in bags. Cedar mulch seems to last the longest. If your garden is likely to receive visits from curious pets (yours or the neighbors’), avoid cocoa hulls that are sold as mulch. These can be toxic to dogs.
Mulch can’t control all weeds, but it sure is a lifesaver for this lazy gardener!
Yes, I admit it! I have become something of a lazy gardener. It is really a bad thing?
Sometimes I think I should be out pulling weeds and fussing about in my gardens, but the truth is that they can pretty much take care of themselves…with a few important caveats.
By Linda Sutherland
Cuddly Critters
Emergency Veterinary Services
When Your Pet Needs Immediate Care
When a pet becomes sick or injured, it can be difficult for owners to know whether the situation requires an emergency veterinary visit or can wait until an appointment with their regular veterinarian. Recognizing the difference between emergency and non-emergency situations can reduce stress and help prevent unnecessary trips for both pets and owners. Understanding the role of emergency veterinary clinics helps pet owners make informed decisions and ensures that their pets receive appropriate care when they need it most.
Emergency veterinary clinics are designed to treat pets experiencing serious illnesses, injuries, or life-threatening conditions that require immediate medical attention. Similar to emergency rooms for people, these facilities are staffed and equipped to provide immediate care during evenings, weekends, holidays, and overnight hours when many primary veterinary clinics are closed.
One of the most common reasons pet owners visit an emergency veterinarian is because their pet is having difficulty breathing. Respiratory distress can worsen quickly and should never be ignored. Other frequent emergencies include seizures, severe injuries, uncontrolled bleeding, heatstroke, poisoning, and allergic reactions. These situations require prompt medical evaluation, as delays in treatment can significantly affect a pet’s recovery.
Gastrointestinal problems are another common reason for emergency visits. Persistent vomiting or diarrhea, especially when accompanied by lethargy, dehydration, or blood, may indicate a serious underlying condition. Dogs that swallow toys, socks, bones, or other foreign objects often require emergency care, as intestinal blockages can become life-threatening if left untreated.
Cats commonly visit emergency clinics for urinary blockages. A cat that repeatedly attempts to urinate but produces little or no urine may be experiencing a medical emergency. Without treatment, urinary blockages can quickly become fatal. Emergency veterinarians also frequently treat pets suffering from sudden weakness, collapse, severe pain, or signs of poisoning after ingesting household chemicals, medications, toxic plants, or certain foods.
While emergency clinics provide critical care, not every health concern requires an immediate visit. Many routine or minor issues can safely wait until a pet’s primary veterinarian is available. Skin irritations, routine ear infections, chronic allergy concerns, vaccinations, wellness exams, dental cleanings, and annual checkups are best handled by a regular veterinary practice.
A pet that experiences a single episode of vomiting but continues eating, drinking, and behaving normally probably doesn’t require emergency care. Likewise, minor limping, occasional scratching, or other non-urgent concerns can often be evaluated during a scheduled appointment. Owners often know what is outside of “normal” for their pet. If owners are unsure whether a situation requires prompt attention, contacting their primary veterinarian for guidance may be the best first step.
Understanding what emergency clinics cannot do is just as important as knowing what they can do. Emergency veterinarians specialize in stabilizing and treating emergency medical conditions, but they are not designed to replace ongoing veterinary care. Most emergency facilities do not provide routine preventive services such as vaccinations, wellness exams, elective spay and neuter procedures, or long-term management of chronic conditions.
Emergency veterinarians may also not have access to a pet’s complete medical history unless the owner provides the records or the primary veterinarian transfers them. Because of this, follow-up care is often referred back to the regular veterinary clinic once the immediate crisis has been addressed. Emergency teams and primary veterinarians work together to ensure that pets receive both urgent treatment and ongoing preventive care.
Pet owners should also understand that emergency veterinary care generally costs more than a routine veterinary visit. Emergency hospitals maintain advanced diagnostic equipment, surgical capabilities, intensive monitoring systems, and around-the-clock staffing. These resources allow them to provide immediate care during critical situations but also result in higher operating costs.
In general, pet owners can expect emergency examination fees and treatment costs to be higher than those at a traditional veterinary practice. Additional expenses may include diagnostic imaging, laboratory testing, hospitalization, surgery, medications, and overnight monitoring. While costs vary by location and treatment needs, emergency care requires specialized resources and staffing to provide immediate medical attention.
Knowing when to seek emergency care can make a significant difference in a pet’s health outcome. Difficulty breathing, seizures, collapse, severe trauma, poisoning, inability to urinate, uncontrolled bleeding, and persistent vomiting or diarrhea accompanied by weakness should never be ignored. When in doubt, contacting a veterinarian for advice is always the safest choice.
Emergency veterinary clinics serve an important role in protecting the health and well-being of pets. By understanding what constitutes an emergency, what services these facilities provide, and how they differ from a primary veterinarian, pet owners can feel more confident when faced with unexpected medical situations. Together, emergency veterinarians and primary care veterinarians help ensure pets receive the right care at the right time.
Sources for this article included: avma.org, merckvetmanual.com, and healthtopics.vetmed.ucdavis.edu.
By Savannah Rosa
Positive Perspective
Matters of the Heart
How Love Enriches Our Lives
Love is a word that can have many meanings and evoke different emotions. I have recently been reflecting on all the different types of love I have in my life.
Let me start with romantic love, which is perhaps the first type of love that comes to mind. I will have just celebrated my 25th wedding anniversary when this issue comes out. It has made me stop and think about all we have gone through together over the years.
Our relationship was interesting from the start. We got engaged after just six months of dating and were married on Friday the 13th. Some said that was bad luck and we wouldn’t last. Today, I feel we are stronger now than ever before.
When I am struggling, my husband is quick to remind me that we are a TEAM and we will get through this TOGETHER, like we always have. We have said from day one that we are in this for the long term. We realize that there will be bumps in the road, but we are both determined to navigate the road together. I realize this is not the case for all relationships, but so far it is working for ours.
“Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, only with what you are expecting to give–which is everything.” — Katharine Hepburn
I can’t talk about love without talking about my children. They are very loved by both my husband and myself. My youngest commented that her friends notice that we always say, “I love you,” when we part. I’m not sure if that is strange, but my husband and I have always been that way with each other and our children. No matter what is going on, I always want my daughters to know that I love them. My oldest no longer lives at home, and our communication is often by text. I make sure that I always end my text with, “I love you.”
“Telling my children I love them isn’t a habit. It is my constant reminder to them that they are the best thing that has ever happened to me.” — Unknown
Next up on my life journey is the love of a pet. When my husband and I were first married, we went out to buy a television and came home with a puppy! Our first “baby” was a soft-coated wheaten terrier. We had not been in our house a month when we took the leap and bought a dog. (Another questionable decision, according to our parents.) I would not have traded Haley for anything! She was a bouncy, sweet, energetic dog. When we had our first daughter, Haley would watch over her. She was incredibly patient and very gentle. I remember Haley sleeping under the crib. I think Haley loved our daughter almost as much as we did!
“Animals are a gift from above, for they truly define the words unconditional love.” — Heather Wolf
There are many other forms of love, and I hope everyone reading this takes a moment to appreciate the love they already have in their lives. Perhaps, just perhaps, that will open their heart to a new kind of love, as well.
By Carissa Rosa
