Winter Trends for 2026
Cuddle Up to Fashionable Warmth
Winter has found us again, as it always does. And, as always, colder weather offers us a fashion challenge. How do we layer up for warmth and still look fashionable? This year, the designers have offerings that are decidedly feminine, flattering, and different from the usual. The first big difference? Color.
As we review all of our usual black clothing for the colder season, we may want to scale it back—new color trends are on the rise. This winter’s palette is deeper, richer, and bolder than in the past. Black and gray are still in the picture but not in their usual volume. Burgundy, espresso, electric blue, bright berry, purples, caramel, and gold are on the forefront.
For your favorite neutral, try choosing chocolate brown instead of black. Chocolate brown looks rich, sophisticated, and updated. This hue also offers some modern color combinations that may be new to you. For example, try pairing brown with royal blue, baby pink, or bright red.
Silhouettes are important this season, as waistlines become more defined. Peplum jackets, sweaters, tops, and coats create a curvy feminine shape, taking precedence over boxy shapes. A waist-defining layer such as a cropped jacket, belted cardigan, or modern peplum looks chic and create an hourglass figure. This is a refreshing update after years of boxy, oversized silhouettes.
Shoulders are becoming more defined, also. Details such as a touch of lace, an interesting brooch, or an artistic scarf will add a touch of personality and elegance to your outfit. Outerwear has also gone bold with the addition of some fun throwback pieces. Think funnel necks (a loose turtleneck), capes, ponchos, and ankle-grazing coats or faux fur embellishments for your jackets and coats.
Fabrics for this winter offer not only warmth and style but also comfort and ease of care. Denim is always important for cooler weather, and it is one of the top fashion trends this year, with dark-wash denim topping the list. Create a polished vibe by keeping it simple with a straight leg and a dark wash. You can mix it with anything from workout gear to a satin blouse for evening. There is nothing more versatile than dark-wash denim.
Velvet is also a favorite cool-weather fabric. It’s washable, flattering, and comes in a wide variety of hues. Velvet is one of the coziest fabrics against your skin.
Washable suede is another wonderful fabric. It’s being used in jackets, blazers, vests, handbags, shoes, and more. It has a luxurious look but is very affordable.
This season, you’ll find interesting textures incorporated into many items. Faux crocodile–embossed handbags and shoes are fairly common, and even jackets are using these style enhancements. Tapestry prints give an update to shapely jackets, vests, even pants. Lace and velvet, along with sheer pieces, offer feminine touches, especially when they’re worn with opposing dynamics like leather and denim. Be sure to look for asymmetrical shapes being featured on skirts, tops, and dresses.
Admittedly, I am a solid-color person, but this season brings cool patterns that require some consideration. Animal print has become a classic neutral, but this year we are adding zebra print to our menagerie. Zebra touches are marvelous in accessories like shoes and handbags. If you love solid colors, adding a handbag or shoes in zebra or with zebra accents gives the solid color outfit a boost of personality.
Plaid is another non-solid that has resurfaced this year. Plaids have always been a staple for fall and winter, but 2026 offers some revamped color combos. Black and white or red and gray plaid will make you stand out in the crowd.
Looking for an academic vibe? Try traditional tartan in a wide variety of colors. Timeless argyle is a classic and remains a good choice for everyone. The stylish diamond print looks new and re-dresses in interesting color schemes. Argyle is not only for vests or sweaters (or socks); it is also trending in skirts and dresses.
A new contender on the horizon is paisley. We have not seen this for a while but welcome its luxurious warmth. Remember this: bandana-centric. This new fashion term is referring to the paisley resurgence that we’ll be seeing this winter.
In conclusion, brown is one of the top color choices of the season. Worn with black, it’s sophisticated; with a pop of color, it’s fresh; paired with gold for the upcoming holidays, it’s elegant. Peplum and hourglass shapes create flattering curves, and incorporating interesting texture and details gives your outfit personality.
Let’s dip our toes into some upcoming trends to freshen up our cold-weather wardrobe and embrace some feminine dressing this winter. Warm, cozy, and fashionable! Doesn’t that sound wonderful?
Editor’s Note: Holly has been in the fashion industry for over 30 years as a buyer, boutique store owner, visual merchandiser, and fashion show producer. She is currently the owner of a modeling agency. Holly regularly appears on local TV doing fashion segments.
Fashion Worthy
By Holly Bell
Weekend Gourmet
Harvest Holidays and Thanks—Let’s Eat!
Holiday Lemon Ricotta Pancakes
In a large bowl, whisk together 1 and 1/4 cups of flour, 1/4 cup of cornstarch, 1 Tablespoon of baking powder, and 1 teaspoon of salt. In another bowl, mix together 1 cup of whole-milk ricotta, 1 cup of buttermilk, 3 extra large eggs, 1/3 cup of sugar, 1 and 1/2 Tablespoons of lemon zest (about 2 lemons), 1/4 cup of fresh lemon juice, 1/2 teaspoon of vanilla, and 6 Tablespoons of melted butter. Add the flour mixture to the ricotta mixture, stirring just until combined (some lumps are fine). Rest batter for 5 minutes. Prepare pancakes as usual. Serve with honey butter, fruits, slabs of cooked bacon, lemon curd, warm maple syrup, or just powdered sugar.
Breakfast Scones
Whisk together 1 and 3/4 cups of flour, 1/4 cup of sugar, 2 teaspoons of baking powder, and 1/4 teaspoon of salt. Cut in 4 Tablespoons of cold, cubed butter until crumbly. Add 1/2 cup of cream, 1/2 teaspoon of vanilla, 1 egg, and the zest of 1 orange. Mix until combined and turn out onto a lightly dusted countertop. Form into an 8-inch rectangle about half an inch thick. Cut the rectangle in half the long way, then into triangles, ending up with 16 pieces. Place onto a parchment-lined baking sheet. Bake at 400 degrees for 15 minutes, until golden. Let them cool for 10–15 minutes before glazing.
To glaze the scones, mix 1 cup of powdered sugar with 2 Tablespoons of fresh or bottled orange juice. Stir and add more juice until you get the desired consistency. Add a dash of vanilla and additional orange zest. Drizzle over the warm scones.
Caramel Cheesecake Game Dip
Mix one 8-ounce package of softened cream cheese with 1/4 cup of powdered sugar and 1 teaspoon of vanilla. Add a bit of pumpkin puree, if you like. Spread the mixture onto a serving plate. Drizzle on some warmed-up caramel ice cream topping and sprinkle chopped nuts and toffee chips over the top. Serve with graham crackers, teddy bears, sliced apples, or salty crackers.
Merry Widows Open-Faced Sandwiches
Spread slices of bread with butter and mayonnaise or Miracle Whip. Pile on slices of turkey and top with 2 Tablespoons of cranberry sauce and a slice of Swiss cheese (or your favorite). Broil in toaster oven or oven until the cheese is bubbly.
Roast Turkey
Safely thaw a small turkey, rinse, and remove the giblet package from the turkey cavity. Place the turkey and turkey parts (or turkey breast, if you are not using a whole bird) in a roasting pan. Blend 2 Tablespoons of canola oil with 1 Tablespoon of paprika and rub the mixture all over the bird. Sprinkle with salt and pepper. Stuff a halved onion, a halved lemon, a stick of celery, and a carrot into the cavity. Add some fresh thyme, if you have it, in or under the pieces or breast. Roast at 350 degrees for about 2–3 hours; use a meat thermometer to test for doneness. Let the meat rest for 20 minutes, then slice and serve with pan gravy.
Maude’s Brandied Cranberries
Line a rimmed cookie sheet with foil or parchment paper. Spread a package of rinsed cranberries in the pan and sprinkle 2 cups of sugar over the berries. Cover with foil. Bake at 325 degrees for 30 minutes. Stir well. Let cool and pour in 2 shots of plain brandy. Stir again and add a bit of fresh orange or lemon zest, if desired. Refrigerate.
Glazed and Baked Carrots
Peel and chunk cut 6 carrots and 3 yams. Put 1 stick of butter and 1 cup of brown sugar in a baking dish. Add the veggies. Cover. Bake at 350 degrees for 40–50 minutes.
Harvest Veggie Bake
Blend together 2 Tablespoons of olive oil, 2 Tablespoons of apple cider vinegar, and 1/2 teaspoon of lemon juice. Set aside. Wash, trim, peel, and chunk cut a variety of veggies: 1 small butternut squash, 1 pound of brussels sprouts, 3 carrots, 1 small red onion, and 1 or 2 sweet potatoes. Add 3 minced cloves of garlic and 1 chopped apple. Pour the olive oil mixture into the veggies and mix. Pour the veggies onto a parchment-lined rimmed cookie sheet or into a shallow baking dish. Sprinkle on salt and pepper as desired. Sprinkle on 1 Tablespoon each of freshly chopped sage and rosemary. Bake for 30 minutes in a 350-degree oven, then add 1 cup of chopped walnuts (optional). Bake for another 30 minutes or until the yams are fork-tender.
Classic Pumpkin Pie
Blend together 1 can of pumpkin puree, 2 eggs, 1 teaspoon of real maple syrup, 1 can of evaporated milk, 1/2 cup of sugar, 1/4 cup of brown sugar, 1 teaspoon of vanilla, 1 teaspoon of cinnamon, 1/2 teaspoon of salt, 1/4 teaspoon of cloves, and 1/2 teaspoon of all spice or pumpkin pie spice. Pour into an unbaked prepared pie shell. Bake on a cookie sheet for 15 minutes at 425 degrees. Lower the oven temperature to 350 degrees and bake for another 40–45 minutes. Cool. Refrigerate. Pass the whipped cream.
Pumpkin Cookies
Whisk together 3 cups of flour, 1 and 1/2 teaspoons of baking powder, 1 teaspoon of baking soda, 1 teaspoon of salt, 2 teaspoons of pumpkin pie spice, 1 and 1/2 teaspoons of cinnamon, and 1/4 teaspoon of ground ginger. Set aside. Mix together 1 and 3/4 cups of soft butter, 1 cup of brown sugar, 3/4 cup of white sugar, 1 egg, 2 teaspoons of milk or maple syrup, 1 and 1/2 teaspoons of vanilla, and 1 and 1/2 cups of canned pumpkin puree. Cream the sugar mixture, then slowly add in the flour mixture. Drop by a teaspoon or cookie scoop onto a parchment-lined cookie sheet. Bake at 350 degrees for 14–15 minutes. Cool.
Combine 3 ounces of soft cream cheese, 2 Tablespoons of soft butter, 3/4 cup of powdered sugar, 2 Tablespoons of pure maple syrup, and a pinch of cinnamon. Mix until smooth. Frost cookies, then sprinkle with mini chocolate chips or fall-themed decorations.
Editor’s Note: Kate has been an Omaha area culinary instructor since 1997. She attended The Institute for the Culinary Arts at Metropolitan Community College in Omaha.
By Kate Beiting
Zodiac Forecast
Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)
November encourages you to embrace change and trust your instincts. You may find yourself reflecting on personal goals, relationships, or routines that no longer fit the person you are becoming. Instead of resisting change, see it as an opportunity to create something better. Quiet time can help you sort through your thoughts, while honest conversations may bring greater clarity to important relationships. Use your birthday season to think about what you want from the year ahead.
Sagittarius (Nov. 22 – Dec. 21) This month, you might feel ready for a change in your routine or a goal that pushes you outside your comfort zone. Before making a major decision, give yourself time to consider the details.
Capricorn (Dec. 22 – Jan. 19) Work or school responsibilities may require extra attention this month; taking short breaks can help prevent burnout. Instead of focusing only on what remains unfinished, recognize the progress you have already made.
Aquarius (Jan. 20 – Feb. 18) November brings opportunities to explore new ideas. You may feel inspired to approach an old problem in a new way. Sharing your thoughts with trusted people could yield useful advice.
Pisces (Feb. 19 – Mar. 20) Give yourself time to recharge this month. You may feel especially thoughtful as the year winds down. Use this time to consider which goals, relationships, and habits you want to carry forward.
Aries (Mar. 21 – Apr. 19) It’s time to focus your energy on what truly matters. Conversations with friends or family could help you see a situation from a different perspective.
Taurus (Apr. 20 – May 20) November brings opportunities to focus on the relationships that matter most. Small changes to your daily routine could make life feel more organized and manageable. Spend time with people who make you feel supported.
Gemini (May 21 – Jun. 20) November may bring new ideas and opportunities. Your natural curiosity can help you learn something valuable. Try not to spread yourself too thin by saying yes to everything.
Cancer (Jun. 21 – Jul. 22) You may feel more reflective than usual this month. Spending time with people you trust can help you recharge. If an old concern comes back to mind, use it as an opportunity to find closure.
Leo (Jul. 23 – Aug. 22) This month, you may feel ready to make progress on something you have been putting off. While it is good to believe in yourself, remember that asking for help does not make you less capable.
Virgo (Aug. 23 – Sep.22) You may feel motivated to improve your routines this month. Move ahead, but avoid putting too much pressure on yourself. Progress does not always happen according to plan!
Libra (Sep. 23 – Oct. 22) You may find yourself reconsidering where you spend your time and energy. If you have been avoiding an important conversation, this could be a good month to address it calmly and honestly, but remember that keeping the peace does not always mean putting your own needs aside.
A Woman's Work
Giving Thanks by Giving Back
Charity Work During the Holidays
Thanksgiving is a time to gather around the table, share good food, and appreciate the people and experiences that make life special. While time with family and friends is an important part of the holiday, Thanksgiving is also a wonderful opportunity to give back to others. Whether you have extra hours, extra food, or simply a desire to help, there are plenty of meaningful ways to make someone else’s holiday a little brighter.
One of the simplest ways to give back is by donating food to a local food pantry. Many organizations collect canned goods, boxed foods, and other nonperishable items to help families prepare meals during the holiday season. Consider picking up a few extra items during your next grocery trip and adding them to your donation.
If you are not sure what to donate, check with the food pantry first. Some organizations may have specific needs or prefer items that are easy for families to prepare. Monetary donations can also help food banks purchase items in larger quantities.
Giving back does not always require spending money. Your time can be just as valuable. Local shelters, community organizations, churches, and food banks often need volunteers during Thanksgiving. Volunteers may help prepare meals, organize donations, serve food, clean up, or distribute holiday packages. Even a few hours of your time can make a difference.
Volunteering as a family or with a group of friends or coworkers can feel particularly meaningful. It’s rewarding to do something positive together! If you plan to volunteer, contact your organization of choice in advance. Thanksgiving is a busy season for many charities, and volunteer opportunities may fill quickly.
For many people, Thanksgiving centers on sharing a meal with loved ones. Consider extending that tradition to someone who may otherwise spend the holiday alone. Invite a neighbor, coworker, friend, or family member without plans to join your celebration. You can also prepare an extra plate of food to deliver to someone who could use a helping hand. A warm meal and friendly conversation can go a long way toward making someone feel remembered and included.
Some organizations offer holiday sponsorship programs that allow individuals or families to provide Thanksgiving meals or other necessities for families in their communities. Depending on the program, you might purchase groceries, provide gift cards, or donate specific items that a family has requested.
This can be a great way to involve children in giving back. Let them choose food or other donated items, and talk with them about why helping others matters. Turning generosity into a family tradition can create meaningful memories while teaching children the value of compassion. Let them learn how good it feels to help someone else.
Thanksgiving can also be great a time to help animals. Local animal shelters and rescue organizations appreciate support during the holiday season. Consider donating pet food, blankets, toys, cleaning supplies, or other items on an organization’s wish list. If you have extra time, ask whether the shelter needs volunteers. Helping clean kennels, organize supplies, or care for animals can be a rewarding way to spend part of the holiday season. Donations and volunteer work can help shelters continue providing care for animals waiting for their forever homes.
Another easy way to give back is by supporting businesses and organizations that contribute to their communities. Look for local businesses participating in food drives, donation programs, or holiday fundraisers. Buying an item while supporting a charitable cause can make your everyday spending have an additional positive impact. You can also consider buying gifts from nonprofit organizations that use proceeds to support their missions. At the very least, prioritize shopping at local businesses. This supports neighbors who are already part of your community.
Giving back doesn’t have to involve a large donation or an organized volunteer opportunity. Small acts of kindness can make a difference, too. Leave a generous tip, check on an elderly neighbor, or thank someone who has made your life easier. Thanksgiving is ultimately about gratitude, and showing that gratitude through kindness can make the holiday more meaningful for you and for the people you thank.
There is no single right way to give back. What matters most is finding something that fits your time, resources, and interests. Whether you donate a bag of groceries, volunteer for an afternoon, share a meal, or help an animal in need, your efforts can make a difference.
This Thanksgiving, take a moment to think beyond your own table. Giving back can bring people together, strengthen communities, and remind us that gratitude is something worth sharing all year long.
By Savannah Rosa
Fresh Concepts
Does Your Mind Need a Checkup?
It’s Okay to Look Under the Hood!
The world is changing rapidly, as technology, artificial intelligence, global events, and everyday challenges reshape our lives. Workplace and social pressures, financial worries, and health concerns can all take a toll. One thing is certain: Mental health is essential to overall well-being.
When life throws you a curveball (and it will), having a strong support system can help you and your loved ones cope, adapt to uncertainty, and recover from setbacks. Let’s explore how to prioritize mental health, recognize when and where to seek help, address common questions and tips, navigate insurance coverage, and find practical ways to feel better. But first, let’s look at a few statistics.
According to the 2024 National Survey on Drug Use and Health, 23.4 percent of U.S. adults—approximately 61.5 million people—experienced a mental illness in the previous year. An estimated 14.6 million adults experienced a serious mental illness that substantially interfered with one or more major life activities. Anxiety disorders and depression are among the most common mental health conditions, and mental illness frequently occurs alongside substance use disorders.
Among U.S. high school students surveyed by the CDC in 2023, 28.5 percent reported poor mental health, 39.7 percent experienced persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness, and 20.4 percent seriously considered attempting suicide. Although several youth mental health indicators improved slightly from 2021 to 2023, the overall figures remain concerning, highlighting the continued need for treatment and crisis support.
It’s important to note the difference between someone who needs professional support and someone who is currently in a mental health crisis. Someone in immediate danger is considered “in crisis.” If someone has or intends to hurt themselves or someone else, call 911 or get to the nearest emergency room. It’s also a good idea to keep the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline posted somewhere at home and at work in case of extreme emotional distress or suicidal behavior. 988 is open for call or text 24 hours a day, seven days a week. It’s a lifeline for everyone.
By now you know that caring for your own mental health and those you love is just as important as caring for your physical health. We work, sleep, make decisions, and handle daily stress, sometimes on autopilot. But when something doesn’t feel quite right, physically or mentally, it’s important to recognize it and ask for help. If a friend or family member is struggling, take time to listen. Don’t try to fix it by yourself. Offer a ride to an appointment or just spend time with them. There’s no harm in encouraging professional help, and you can even offer to go with them to their first appointment (if appropriate).
How do you know when to call for help? After all, stress, grief, relationship challenges, sadness, and anxiety are all, to some degree, part of being human. If any of these feelings are more persistent or intense than usual, ask for help. Don’t wait until you’re in crisis! If anxiety interrupts life on a regular basis, connect with a professional. Other signs that it’s time to ask for help include insomnia, a change in eating habits, loss of interest in the activities that once made you happy, unusual irritability, or feeling the need to withdraw from friends and family.
And here’s the thing—you don’t have to be diagnosed with a mental health condition to talk with a professional. A trained therapist can help you get back on track, and everything remains confidential. Growing mental health awareness and education have made a positive shift in how the public views treatment for psychological conditions. Let’s admit it, everyone is going through something. If it starts to feel out of control, early support can make a difference.
Where should you start, and what professional should you seek? There are lots of options to choose from. The terms “therapist” and “counselor” are often used interchangeably, but there are some differences. A therapist often holds a master’s or doctoral degree in psychology or social work. They may work in private practice, hospitals, clinics, schools, or community centers. They can diagnose and treat mental health conditions, with different types of therapies for couples, individuals, families, and other groups. Counselors usually hold a master’s degree and often practice in community mental health centers, substance use centers, schools, and private practice. Both are amazing for your toolkit!
Psychologists have advanced degrees in psychology but are not medical doctors. They’re trained to evaluate and treat different types of emotional and behavioral mental health concerns but cannot prescribe medication. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who can diagnose mental illness and prescribe medication to treat it.
Licensed clinical social workers (LCSWs) are specially trained in social work and clinical mental health care. They provide counseling and therapy. They also bring a strong perspective to family, social, and community aspects that impact a client’s health.
There are other important specialists in the field. For example, psychiatric nurse practitioners (PNPs) are trained to diagnose and treat disorders in patients of all ages, and they collaborate with physicians and other healthcare pros. Some therapists specialize in family therapy, addiction support, sex therapy, art and expressive therapy, or behavioral specialties for ADHD or autism.
There are also psychodynamic (also called psychoanalytic) therapists rooted in psychoanalysis (think Sigmund Freud) who explore early life experiences and unconscious motivations to understand patterns of behavior. Techniques include free association, dream analysis, and exploring transference. Sound a little whimsical? Maybe. But you’ll learn a lot about yourself and others.
With that lineup, you might be more confused about where to start. Don’t overthink it! Start with someone familiar, like your primary care doctor. They can often connect you to a therapist who is a great fit. Do keep in mind that it sometimes takes about three therapists before finding the right match and about five sessions before you’re comfortable opening up. Let the process unfold naturally for the best outcome. Don’t be afraid to say, “I don’t think this is the right fit for me.” These professionals know that therapy works best when the patient is comfortable, and they won’t be hurt if you decide they’re not the best person to help you with the issues you’re facing.
When you’re choosing a therapist, don’t overlook the prospect of telehealth, during which you can chat with mental health professionals through your computer or phone. It can make appointment scheduling easier and may be less expensive than seeing someone in person. Whichever professional you choose, always consider their credentials, specialties, experience, and costs.
If you’re concerned about cost and coverage, ask your insurance provider about co-pays and deductibles before scheduling an appointment. Some community mental health centers and non-profits offer services and costs based on income. If your workplace offers an employee assistance program (EAP), you can usually get a limited number of mental health visits free. Group therapy is an option, too, and is usually much less expensive. Always ask! There may be resources available that you didn’t know existed.
The first visit to a therapist can feel intimidating, but it’s usually just a conversation about your concerns and the support you need. The provider may ask about your medical and mental health history, sleep and eating habits, stress, mood, relationships, and safety at home or work. Some questions may feel personal, but they help the provider understand your situation and recommend next steps. You don’t need to arrive with your own diagnosis or a complete explanation. Simply saying that you don’t feel like yourself is enough to begin a session.
What kinds of therapy are out there? Talk therapy is most common but is only one of many types. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) helps change challenging thought patterns into healthier patterns. There are behavioral therapies (reinforcement strategies) for anxiety or trauma. There are relationship therapies, creative therapies (art, music, or dance), equine (horse) therapy, mindfulness, biofeedback, neurofeedback, hypnotherapy, and more. I dare say that some therapy is actually fun!
The most important step is the first one. Seeking professional care for mental health doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you know yourself well enough to know that you’re not feeling like yourself. Life is complicated. We’re all human, and that means experiencing grief, loneliness, anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship woes, career stress, health challenges, money stress, and all of life’s twists and turns. You don’t have to navigate a journey to wellness alone. Make the call. Expert advice may just be the ticket to wellness!
Sources for this article included: psychologytoday.com, samsha.gov, and apa.org.
By Janette Calabro
Good Looks
A Change of Heart and Body
Understanding Breast Surgery
For years, Ana has experienced neck and back pain due the large size of her breasts. Her bra straps dig into her shoulders. Her skin is often irritated, and participating in sports has always been a challenge. She wishes she could buy clothes off the rack without needing professional tailoring to make them fit. Breast reduction surgery has been on her mind for a long time.
Claire loved being pregnant with both of her children, but pregnancy brought fluctuating weight gain and loss. She is satisfied with the size of her post-pregnancy body, but she wants to change her look and increase her breast size with breast augmentation surgery.
Molly is enjoying retirement and loves the freedom it brings. She has always felt comfortable with the size of her breasts, but the aging process has resulted in a lot of sagging tissue, and she no longer loves the position and shape of her breasts. She is contemplating a mastopexy (breast lift) to reposition her breasts so they look more like they used to look.
Sarena is planning to undergo a double mastectomy as part of her breast cancer treatment, and she’s worried that she won’t feel like her old self afterwards. She is considering implants to restore the approximate size and shape of her breasts.
Four different women. Four different and very personal decisions. Breast surgery is not all about size. It’s about comfort, confidence, and feeling at home in one’s body.
Any choice of breast surgery, to increase size, decrease size, or reposition existing tissue, comes with the same set of questions. Each woman needs to ask these basic questions of herself: “What bothers me, what am I hoping to change, and what will I look and feel like after the surgery?”
Search for a board-certified plastic surgeon (not a general or cosmetic surgeon) who has had years of surgical training after completing medical school and is accredited with surgical centers or hospitals. And there’s no reason that you can’t seek a second opinion from another surgeon! You have to trust your surgeon—if it’s not a great fit, move on.
Your questions can lead to a conversation about their credentials and their experience with the procedure you’re considering. Ask for before-and-after pictures of their work, as well as what complications and pain management might look like. Each type of breast surgery has different recovery and healing stages, and it’s important to know what to expect. Most recoveries will include activity restrictions, support garments, and time away from work and other activities.
Like any surgery, breast surgery can result in complications like bleeding or infection. Procedure-specific complications could include implant rupture, scarring, or loss of nipple sensation.
Even when everything goes smoothly, additional surgery may be needed later in life, as breast implants are not considered “lifetime devices.” All of these issues should be discussed before choosing to proceed with breast surgery.
Pregnancy hormones expand breast tissue, and post-pregnancy deflation could compromise the results of pre-pregnancy procedures. If a pregnancy occurs after breast surgery, an additional procedure may be needed. A breast lift typically preserves the milk ducts, but breast reduction surgery does remove glandular tissue. Many surgeons advise postponing breast surgery until you are past wanting to have children.
Traditional implants are filled with sterile salt water (that is, saline). Saline-filled implants tend to feel firmer. If they leak, the body absorbs the saline. A structured saline implant is also filled with sterile saline, but it is built around an inner structure, which results in a more natural feel.
A silicone gel implant consists of medical-grade gel within a sac and can feel more like natural breast tissue. One type of silicone gel implant is known formally as a highly cohesive, form-stable implant and less formally as a “gummy bear” implant. It gets its nickname from its consistency, which is much like a gummy bear—it will not leak if ruptured. Like saline implants, silicone implants meet strict FDA approval.
Health insurance may cover breast reduction or implants when breast tissue is lost because of a cancer diagnosis or severe trauma. Breast lifts (mastopexies) may be covered as a part of breast cancer or weight loss reconstruction. Breast implants for cosmetic reasons are almost never covered by insurance. Have that conversation with your plastic surgeon and secure preauthorization before surgery.
For Ana, Claire, Molly, and Sarena, the reasons for breast surgery may be different, but the path is the same: Ask questions, understand the benefits and risks, set realistic expectations, and choose a qualified plastic surgeon. Breast surgery is a very personal choice, and being informed about your desired procedure lets you make your choice with confidence.
Sources for this article included: fda.gov, mayoclinic.org, plasticsurgery.org, and natrelle.com.
By Mary Byrnes
Income Outcome
The Universal Laws of Change
Make Your Choice!
We have all, at one time or another, come to a crossroads when a decision could change our lives for the better—or for the worse. For military members, change becomes part of life. During my career in the United States Navy, I lived in Sardinia and Naples, Italy; Sasebo, Japan; Mililani, Hawaii; Omaha, Nebraska; Jacksonville, Florida; and San Diego, California. I also served aboard three Navy ships. Just imagine the different people, languages, cultures, lifestyles, customs, and foods I had to become accustomed to along the way.
“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” — Author uncertain
Learning to accept change can make it easier to live a prosperous and happy life. How would I ask for directions in Italy or Japan? How would I know what foods I might enjoy or what was considered polite—or disrespectful—in another culture? I had to learn pieces of the language, culture, etiquette, manners, and customs around me.
That is one of the wonderful things about accepting change. You meet new people, make friends, experience different ideas, and discover things you may never have encountered otherwise. When you accept change, you open the door for experience, opportunities, and wisdom to grow alongside you. Sometimes, change even gives you a new favorite meal. Mine is yakisoba.
“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or the present are certain to miss the future.” — John F. Kennedy
Here is something we sometimes forget: You do not have to change. You can continue doing the same things year after year and ignore opportunities to learn, grow, strengthen relationships, or challenge yourself.
But while you may choose not to change, the world around you will continue changing anyway. People will set goals. Careers will develop. Relationships and families will grow. Someone may purchase a home, earn a promotion, go back to school, or accomplish a goal they once thought impossible.
If you remain exactly where you are, you may eventually wonder why everyone seems to be passing you by. Life did not forget about you. You may simply have chosen not to move when life gave you the opportunity.
“There are moments in life when change is no longer a choice—it becomes the only way forward.” — Anonymous
But eventually you may reach that crossroads, when choosing to change makes all the difference. No one likes being forced to change. You may walk into the doctor’s office and hear, “You weigh 400 pounds. You need to stop eating those delicious pastries, or you could experience a stroke or heart attack.” That is when life hits you right in the face and says, “Change now.”
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” — Anonymous
Accept change — Don’t change — Be forced to change — Pick one!
By Manny Chavez
Between Us
Just Three Things
Practicing Gratitude
Hello, all. Welcome to November—the month for gratitude!
For the last several months, I have been on a mission to stop and say thank you every morning when I wake up. I say it before I get out of bed, before I check my phone, before I head to the kitchen for coffee, before I feed Jack, our cat.
I realized I had fallen into the habit of rushing through my mornings. First, I checked my phone for messages, then my calendar, and then…OH NO…the news!
“The more wonderful the means of communication, the more trivial, tawdry, or depressing its contents seemed to be.” —Arthur C. Clarke, 2001: A Space Odyssey
I’ll admit that, back in the day, I was something of a news junkie. I read the daily newspaper pretty much from front to back. When I started Women’s Edition in 1986, time was precious, so that habit fell by the wayside. Occasionally, though, I would slip back into my old ways and immerse myself in the drama.
In the early ’90s, during the first recession I faced as a business owner, I realized that all the negativity I was feeding into my brain wasn’t helping me. It wasn’t helping my advertisers or my readers, either.
“The consumption of negative news can have a profound effect on our mental health, fueling anxiety, depression, and a skewed perception of reality. —Dr. Rolf Dobelli
Yet here I was, years later, needing that reminder again.
When I decided to make a change, I realized I had become so focused on all the negative things happening in the world that I had fallen out of the habit of being grateful. I hate to admit it, but I struggled to find even one thing I appreciated. Boy, was that an eye-opener.
I knew I had to start somewhere. So, when I woke up, I said, “Thank you for the sunshine coming through my window. Thank you for the bed I slept in. Thank you for the sound of birds singing this morning.”
Just three things. Why three? Because it feels manageable while still being meaningful.
Then I found that every day became just a little easier. My spirits lifted. I felt calmer and more at peace. Nothing out there had really changed, but I had.
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” —Leo Tolstoy
Knowing what we can change—and what we can’t—is a step toward a better life, a more peaceful life, a more grateful life. And who doesn’t want that?
By Janet Van DeWalle
Interiors By Design
Gaming at Home
Keeping Family Time Fun!
Ah, family time. You may have grown up playing checkers with your favorite uncle or card games with grandparents. Many of us have known the pleasure of a lazy Sunday afternoon when the rain socked us in for the day…out came the puzzles or the board games.
Today’s family is often found racing from school to soccer practice or from dance recitals to football games. All that time in the car doesn’t really count as family time, does it? Finding time to spend playing games or putting puzzles together as a family unit has really seen a comeback.
Activities like these may benefit from a special room in the home where puzzles can be kept out until completed without having to put them away in order to clear the table for eating. We don’t want to play board games on the family room floor anymore. We want a home theater. We want a space to play ping-pong or pool. We want cupboards stacked with board games and bookshelves stocked with books. Whatever it is your family enjoys doing together, you’ll find it easier to gather and play if you have a dedicated space to do so. What you need is a family game room!
Consider the ages of your children. Place age-appropriate games in lower drawers of a buffet or decorative baskets where children can easily access them. Having a space where they can go without supervision or assistance in order to explore a variety of books, art, crafts, and games is important for building self-confidence. Make it a habit to spend at least some portion of your day doing something together, as a family. Play a board game, work on an art project, read out loud to younger family members. All of these activities can be important parts of building a strong family bond.
You don’t need a huge space for a game room. Consider setting up a table and board game storage in a spare bedroom. If your family enjoys more active game time, perhaps a basement or lower level would allow for a gaming table like ping pong, billiards, or foosball.
When adding one of these tables to your home, be sure to take into consideration the amount of space you need not just for the table itself, but also for the space needed to walk around and actually play the game. (You don’t want the far end of a pool cue crashing into a wall or glass door!)
If you decide to incorporate a pool table, ping pong table, or foosball table, consider hiring a professional company to deliver and install it properly. The same goes for stand-up arcade games. Ensuring that your flooring is stable and adequate to handle these heavier games is another consideration. And don’t forget ventilation! Like many appliances, arcade games need space to breathe.
Trending now for Gen X and millennials is adding vintage and classic pinball machines to their home game room. According to Player One Amusement Group, “pinball machines have made a remarkable comeback in recent years, moving beyond arcades to become cherished fixtures in homes.” These machines bring back incredible memories for the older members of the household, and the children are enthralled by the sounds and flashing lights.
If you have the space and the interest, consider a home theater room to bring family together. Considerations for this addition to your home include comfortable seating, hidden speakers, and low lighting. You can make a home theater as extravagant as your budget allows.
If your budget has you thinking on a smaller scale, consider an interior room of the home where a comfortable sofa or daybed allows the family to stretch out and enjoy a quick movie or favorite sitcom. Interior rooms deal less with outside lighting, which could cause glare on the television or movie screen.
To create a game room without breaking the bank, consider purchasing restored or used equipment. Your old entertainment center could serve as storage for board games, controllers, paddles, and darts. It could also be a beverage station or snack storage. Whatever you’re planning, you’re going to need comfortable seats. You want your family to pull up a chair and stay a while!
No matter your budget, you can dream up a space that provides just the right activity to fit your family’s lifestyle. Seeking a space in your home where family and friends can gather, where they feel safe to be themselves in order to enjoy time together, is critical! Use your imagination to create the type of environment where your family is able to enjoy this time together. This is really what game rooms are all about!
Sources for this article included: pl-ag.com, mydomain.com, and jerseyjackpinball.com.
By Robyn Vance
Home Works
Don’t Get Shocked
Make Electrical Safety a Home Habit
Electricity provides comfort and convenience, powering everything from lighting and appliances to HVAC and tools. However, electrical systems can become dangerous when wiring is damaged, circuits are overloaded, or equipment is improperly installed. Knowing how your home’s electrical system works and recognizing warning signs can help prevent electrical shocks, fires, injuries, and property damage.
The electrical panel (also called the breaker panel) is the heart of a home’s electrical distribution system. It receives the electricity entering the home and distributes it through individual circuits. Inside the panel are circuit breakers that will shut off power when a circuit becomes overloaded or experiences a fault.
Common household electrical problems include breakers that trip repeatedly, flickering lights, buzzing or crackling sounds, dead outlets, and switches or receptacles that become unusually warm. These problems can be caused by overloaded circuits, loose connections, damaged wiring, faulty appliances, or an electrical system that cannot safely handle the home’s electrical demand.
Loose, scorched, or cracked outlets are particularly important warning signs. A loose outlet can allow connections behind the receptacle to move when a plug is inserted or removed. Poor contact can create resistance, producing heat, and can damage surrounding components. Scorch marks or discoloration may indicate that an outlet has overheated or experienced an electrical fault. Cracks can expose internal components and reduce the protection provided by the outlet. Damaged outlets should not be used until they have been inspected and repaired by a qualified electrician.
A shock or tingling sensation after touching something electrical should also be taken seriously. A properly functioning appliance or electrical system should not cause a shock when it is touched. This may indicate moisture, improper grounding, or a defective appliance. Stop using the equipment and avoid touching it again until the source has been identified. Even a mild shock is not considered normal, particularly if it happens repeatedly or occurs when touching the metal portion of an appliance.
Overloading outlets is also an electrical hazard. Every circuit is designed to carry a specific amount of electrical current, and power strips or extension cords do not increase that capacity. Connecting too many devices to one outlet can cause plugs, cords, connections, and wiring to overheat.
Space heaters deserve special attention because they draw substantial amounts of electricity for long periods. Follow the manufacturer’s instructions and keep them away from combustible materials. Other high-demand devices, such as microwaves, portable air conditioners, hair dryers, electric kettles, and power tools, can also place significant demands on household circuits.
GFCI (ground fault circuit interrupter) protection is especially important. Bathrooms, kitchens, garages, laundry areas, basements, and outdoor locations commonly require GFCI protection. A GFCI monitors the flow of electricity and interrupts power when an imbalance is detected, protecting people from serious electrical shock. If a GFCI repeatedly trips, will not reset, or appears damaged, it should be inspected rather than bypassed.
Older homes may contain outdated wiring, deteriorated insulation, inadequate grounding, older electrical components, or insufficient electrical capacity. Previous remodeling projects may also result in a mixture of older and newer wiring. These issues are particularly important when renovating an older home or increasing its electrical demands. An electrical inspection can identify concerns that may not be visible to the homeowner.
Adding appliances also requires careful consideration. Modern households often use substantially more electricity than older homes were originally designed to accommodate. Large appliances such as electric ranges, dryers, air conditioners, and hot tubs, may require dedicated circuits or additional electrical capacity. Before installation, homeowners should ask an expert whether the existing electrical system can safely support a new appliance.
Don’t ignore smoke or the smell of burning wires or plastic. These may be signs of an electrical fire. If it is safe to do so, turn off the affected circuit or the home’s main power and move away from the area. Do not touch damaged electrical equipment, and never use water on an electrical fire. If there is active smoke or fire, leave the home immediately and call emergency services.
Be sure to hire a licensed electrician. Electrical problems can be difficult to diagnose because dangerous conditions may be hidden behind walls, outlets, or equipment. Incorrect repairs can cause shocks, fires, equipment damage, or serious injury. A licensed electrician can identify the cause of an electrical problem and perform the necessary work safely. Ask for references and get a written estimate. Ask about necessary permits, the project timeline, and what guarantees are offered.
When it comes to electricity, small warning signs can point to big problems. Don’t wait for a spark to make the message clear: A little attention today can prevent a much bigger problem tomorrow.
Sources for this article included: esfi.org, constellation.com, and staysafe.org.
By Loretta McCollum
To Your Good Health
Bladder Health Awareness Month
It’s Time to Talk About Bladder Health
You probably don’t give your bladder much thought until it demands your attention. Bladder leakage, frequent trips to the bathroom, and sudden urges can feel embarrassing and make you wonder whether you are the only one dealing with them. Some women change what they wear, avoid exercise, turn down invitations, or automatically look for the nearest restroom whenever they go somewhere new. Others simply assume these changes are an unavoidable part of childbirth, menopause, or aging. They do not have to be.
When bladder problems begin, they can affect much more than bathroom habits. Sleep, exercise, travel, relationships and even everyday confidence can take a hit. Common concerns include urinary leakage (incontinence), overactive bladder, frequent urination, sudden urgency, urinary tract infections (UTIs), waking repeatedly during the night to urinate, and difficulty completely emptying the bladder.
Women can experience bladder changes for many reasons. Pregnancy and childbirth may affect the muscles and tissues that support the bladder. Menopause brings hormonal and pelvic changes, while aging can affect the muscles and nerves involved in bladder control. Certain medications and health conditions, including diabetes, neurologic disorders, obesity, and chronic constipation, may also contribute.
Bladder problems may become more common with age, but leakage and urgency are not “just part of getting older.” If you are changing your routine, losing sleep, avoiding exercise, skipping social events, or planning outings around restroom locations, it’s time to talk with a healthcare professional.
Some symptoms should be addressed sooner rather than later. Blood in the urine, fever along with urinary symptoms, an inability to urinate, or severe pelvic, abdominal, or back pain require prompt medical attention. Pain or burning with urination, a sudden change in bathroom habits, or ongoing difficulty emptying the bladder are also good reasons to call your doctor.
A few everyday habits may help support bladder health. Stay well hydrated instead of dramatically cutting back on fluids because you are worried about leakage. Try not to routinely hold urine for long periods. Get regular physical activity, maintain a healthy weight, and prevent constipation.
Certain foods or drinks can make symptoms worse. Caffeine and alcohol may increase urgency or frequency for some people. Carbonated drinks, citrus, tomatoes, spicy foods, chocolate, and artificial sweeteners can also be irritating for certain bladders. Consider keeping a simple bladder diary and looking for patterns. Tobacco is another concern because smoking is a major risk factor for bladder cancer.
The pelvic floor is a group of muscles that helps support the bladder, bowel, and reproductive organs and plays an important role in controlling urination. Problems with these muscles can contribute to leakage, and pelvic floor physical therapy can be an effective part of treatment.
For many women, the idea of seeing a pelvic floor therapist can feel more intimidating than the symptoms themselves. It may help to remember that what feels deeply personal to you is routine medical care to them. Pelvic floor physical therapists work with these concerns every day. They know patients may feel nervous, embarrassed, or hesitant. A good therapist will explain what an evaluation involves, answer questions, and make sure you are comfortable with each step before proceeding.
Pelvic floor treatment is also about much more than simply being told to do Kegel exercises. Some muscles may be weak, while others may be too tight or may not coordinate properly. A trained therapist can evaluate what is happening and recommend treatment that fits your specific problem.
Your primary care provider or gynecologist can evaluate many bladder concerns.
And that first appointment may be less intimidating than you expect. Often, it starts with a conversation about when symptoms began, how often you use the bathroom, when leakage occurs, what medications you take, your pregnancy and childbirth history, and what and how much you drink. Your provider may also recommend a bladder diary, urine test, physical examination, or other testing.
Depending on the cause, treatment may include lifestyle changes, bladder training, pelvic floor therapy, medication or other medical treatments. Sometimes relatively small changes can make a meaningful difference.
Perhaps the most important message during Bladder Health Awareness Month is this: Don’t let embarrassment keep you from asking for help. Healthcare professionals who treat bladder and pelvic floor problems know these conversations can be uncomfortable. They are not there to judge you. They are there to help.
If you find yourself organizing your life around the nearest restroom or quietly accepting symptoms that are bothering you, speak up. Better bladder health may begin with one simple sentence: “I need to talk about this.”
Sources for this article included: niddk.nih.gov, hopkinsmedicine.org, and my.clevelandclinic.org.
By Leslie Byrne
401(k) Investing for Newbies & Nerds
Find Your 401(k) Sweet Spot
Getting Comfortable With Your Investment Strategy
Ninety million American workers own $14 trillion in their 401(k) accounts.
These are not savings accounts; they are investment accounts. Their owners have the responsibility—and the opportunity—to choose how to invest those dollars. How well they choose will determine their quality of life in their golden years.
Not all investors are created equal! Each investor brings different skills, temperament, and expectations to the table. A portfolio that matches the account owner’s investment profile is their 401(k) sweet spot.
Finding your 401(k) sweet spot begins with identifying your expectations about your investment returns. This element, like most of the elements in your investment profile, has an age component to it. Young investors begin with small account balances and long time horizons (that is, they plan to work for many years before they retire). Mature investors tend to have significantly larger account balances and shorter time horizons (that is, most of their years in the workforce are behind them). Younger investors are anxious to grow their accounts, while older investors may be content with what they have accumulated.
There is also a variable element that is related not to age but to temperament. There are those who, regardless of age, get emotional enjoyment from chasing and catching a “once-in-a-lifetime” investment opportunity. Others enjoy watching their account slowly compound, getting satisfaction and peace of mind from the steady growth.
There is no universally correct answer to the “appropriate return” question. The only correct answer is the one that makes you feel comfortable. The historical average rate of return for stocks is in the 11 to 12 percent range. The comparable number for bonds is in the 4 to 5 percent range. This is a long-term average; short-term gains and losses can vary significantly.
The next element in your 401(k) investor profile is your perception of risk and how you choose to deal with it. A simple definition of risk is the possibility that something bad can happen. In the case of investing, it is virtually impossible to put a finite number on the possibility of a bad event.
An investor’s tolerance of risk varies from person to person. Financial professionals try to convince investors to act as though risk tolerance is age-related, but it is not. There are young 401(k) owners who would never buy a stock and older investors who would never own a bond. The choice is yours!
A person’s tolerance of risk can also be situational. It is possible for a person who feels generally comfortable with investing in the stock market to become extremely leery of owning stocks after they hear a comment made by a TV news talking head. A person’s feelings about risk are not always based on a rational calculation. Risk tolerance is most often dominated by emotion. Understanding this allows investors to choose: control your emotions and stay the course or adjust your portfolio allocations based upon your feelings about short-term political or economic events. It’s your money.
The third element that goes into the identification of your 401(k) sweet spot is the level of participation that you want to have in the building and maintenance of the investment portfolio. The most common approach to the construction and maintenance of a 401(k) investment portfolio is for the account owner to select mutual funds from a menu provided by the fund administrator.
If you feel uncomfortable doing this, there are alternatives to consider. The first is to consult with the financial professional associated with the plan. They can give you specific fund suggestions or provide the necessary research materials on the plan’s mutual fund menu. It is also possible for the financial professional to construct your investment portfolio for you. Finally, there is a provision in most plans that if the account owner does not make an investment choice, the assets automatically default to a target date fund.
There is one final element to a perfect 401(k) investment portfolio sweet spot. You should write it down and, on an irregular basis, pull it out and read it to yourself. (In today’s fast-paced, electronic, cell phone world, the likelihood of this happening is slim to none, I suppose.) In the words of Yogi Berra, “If you don’t know where you’re going, you might end up somewhere else.”
The 401(k) program provides American workers with both challenges and opportunities. Those who choose to get involved have an opportunity to participate in the growth of the great American economic engine and create a pool of wealth which they can control and enjoy when they reach their golden years. The challenge is that the program puts the responsibility for managing the retirement assets on the account owner. Those who take the time and energy to do this properly will be rewarded with a retirement fund that will keep on giving throughout their retirement years.
Editor’s Note: George Morgan has six decades’ experience in all phases of the investment process. He is currently the Founder and Principal of Morgan Investor Education. His website is morganinvestoreducation.com.
The opinions voiced in this material are for general information only and are not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. To determine which investments may be appropriate for you, consult your financial advisor prior to investing.
By George Morgan
Seasons of Life
Advantages of Assisted Living
Support for a New Chapter
As our population ages, many seniors are choosing assisted living when remaining at home becomes too challenging. They maintain considerable independence while enjoying improved safety and quality of life. Assisted living differs from skilled nursing in that the recipient does not require round-the-clock medical care. Instead, they receive support with daily activities such as personal care, meals, housekeeping, managing their medications, and transportation.
Independent living arrangements do not typically include the daily assistance that assisted living provides. The differences between independent, assisted, and skilled nursing arrangements depend on the degree of care or support one needs. Some assisted living communities have a wing dedicated to memory care.
Assisted living is ideal for those who value their independence but need some help with daily tasks. Community dining is typical; however, many facilities include small kitchens so some meals can be prepared in their quarters when the resident prefers.
The usual arrangements include small apartments, private or shared. Help with bathing, medications, and housekeeping is available as needed. For those with limited mobility, aides can assist with transfers and with dressing.
Safety is a top priority. Special attention is given to fall prevention. Emergency systems include call lights in bathrooms and alert buttons that can be worn on a lanyard. Help is just a moment away.
Socialization and community are emphasized; in addition to common dining, activities are planned to encourage interaction. They might include group outings, fitness classes, games, coffee gatherings, movies, and entertainment. Religious services are provided and activities around hobby interests abound.
Staff are trained and experienced in senior support. Requirements vary by state, but resident assistants typically hold a CNA certification, while medication assistants hold medication aide certification. Both are normally overseen by an RN or LPN. In addition to providing technical know-how, they ensure residents feel valued with personalized care and friendly support.
At an upscale community near me, residents enjoy natural outdoor spaces and sunny indoor common areas. They connect with friends and receive the support they need in a very positive atmosphere. Amenities such as nearby shopping, restaurant-style dining, on-site hair salon, laundry services, movie theater, fitness center, and frequent outings ensure residents are happy and connected. Pets are accepted, and they have concierge services seven days a week.
When could a loved one benefit from assisted living? You may be fortunate to have one who declares they are tired of the cooking and housekeeping grind or are missing their usual activities because “getting around” is increasingly difficult. They may simply realize it is time to explore the possibilities.
In other cases, there may be resistance to leaving the family home. Sadly, there are situations where an elder cannot recognize their need for support. We are concerned about their safety and health. Some signs to look for: frequent falls, questionable nutrition, poor hygiene, increased need for medication, neglected housekeeping or home maintenance, memory loss, or ongoing struggle with daily tasks.
Some of these issues might be solved by hiring help to come into the home or by recruiting family members to assist. If someone is willing to oversee their care, this can be a solution. Modifications can be made to the home. Careful consideration must be given to the costs, both in terms of caregiver fatigue and financial resources.
Transitioning to assisted living can provide a senior with the best care and provide their family with peace of mind. You might want to engage a placement service to assist in the search. They will consider your loved one’s needs and recommend some possible solutions. They are helpful, know all the resources in the community, and can assist in understanding the financial side. Scheduling tours is part of their service, and it is all free to the client.
When touring, it is important to observe the atmosphere of the community. Are staff members friendly? Do the residents appear to be happy? You’ll want to know about certification and licensing, as well as how emergencies are handled. How secure is the facility? Are residents encouraged to be active and engaged? Is there good communication with family members? Can the facility provide additional care if needed? Costs vary greatly, so be sure of all charges involved, whether they are part of the monthly base price or add-on expenses. Will insurance, Medicare, Medicaid, or the VA cover any costs?
Definitely involve your loved one in decisions whenever possible to ensure a smoother transition. These communities normally allow residents to bring furniture and personal belongings for a homey feel. Frequent visits and phone calls from family and friends are helpful. Soon your senior will be enjoying the exceptional benefits of assisted living!
Sources for this article included: health.usnews.com, seniorliving.org, agingwithintention.org, and care.com.
By Linda Barnes
Peak Performance
Beyond Counting Sheep
Understanding and Treating Sleep Disorders
Sometimes, a good night’s sleep feels like rocket science. Not all of us go to that wonderful, stress-free place every night to dream and recharge…at least, not always. For millions of people, bedtime isn’t a matter of simply closing your eyes and falling asleep. Tossing, turning, and waking throughout the sleep cycle isn’t uncommon. And waking up to feel like you just went for a bumpy convertible ride during a storm might be the result. If it’s hard to fall asleep and stay asleep, you might have a sleep disorder. The good news? Sleep disorders can be diagnosed and treated. In this article, let’s examine different types of sleep disorders, warning signs, who to see, treatment options, and lots of tips! First, a few statistics.
Globalhealthbeacon.com says that in 2026, about 30 to 35 percent of U.S. adults reported insufficient sleep. That means that one in three adults does not get the recommended amount of sleep (at least seven hours) on a regular basis. Lack of sleep is linked to health problems like depression, heart disease, obesity, and type 2 diabetes. Sleep is so much more than downtime! The quality of sleep supports physical health, mood and energy, recovery time, and brain functions like memory and concentration. Ongoing lack of sleep can lead to accidents, injuries, and poor energy. Sleep disorders cost the U.S. economy over $411 billion annually.
So, what’s keeping you awake? One of several sleep disorders may be responsible. Obstructive sleep apnea occurs when the airway becomes blocked during sleep. Warning signs include loud snoring, pauses in breathing, and gasping or choking. You might wake up with a dry mouth or headache and feel sleepy during the day.
Restless legs syndrome causes uncomfortable sensations and the urge to move your legs, especially when trying to sleep. Narcolepsy often causes excessive daytime sleepiness and sudden sleep episodes, which can be dangerous.
Sleepwalking is a type of parasomnia, which is a category of unusual behaviors that occur during sleep. Circadian rhythm disorders develop when your internal sleep-wake clock is disrupted, as with jet lag or shift work. Good old insomnia is often stress-related.
All sleep disturbances can disrupt daily life. Instead of walking around like a zombie, check with your primary care provider for a referral to a sleep medicine specialist. Getting answers might involve other professionals like a pulmonologist, neurologist, therapist, or even a dentist who is trained in sleep medicine. Yes, they do exist!
Sleep centers specialize in evaluation, testing, and treatment. Staff may ask about your symptoms, sleep schedule, nighttime awakenings, medications, diet, and medical history. Don’t be surprised if you’re asked to keep a sleep diary. During an overnight sleep study, monitors typically track brain activity, heart rate, oxygen levels, and muscle movement while you sleep. Alternatively, you may qualify for a portable home test that checks for breathing disorders such as sleep apnea. These studies help identify what is disrupting your sleep and arrive at a treatment plan.
Treatment for a sleep disorder depends on the diagnosis. It might be as simple as lifestyle changes or as in-depth as cognitive behavioral therapy. If stress and anxiety make it hard to settle your busy mind, don’t just reach for a sleeping pill (as tempting as it may be). They’re often recommended only for a short time. Ditto for over-the-counter sleep aids.
Continuous positive airway pressure (CPAP) therapy might be recommended for sleep apnea. This machine pumps a steady stream of pressurized air though a hose connected to a mask, keeping airways open. Oral appliances like custom-fitted mouthguards hold the lower jaw forward so the airways don’t collapse during sleep. Positional therapy uses specialized pillows or devices to encourage side sleeping, which is a better position for the airways. There are surgical options, too, like soft tissue surgery or surgery to reposition the jaw. A newer alternative to CPAP is an implant that helps maintain positive airway pressure without the mask!
While treatment isn’t one-size-fits-all, you can give yourself a better night’s sleep with healthy habits. Keep a regular bedtime and wake-up schedule (even on weekends) and try to wind down before you climb into bed. Avoid bright light and screen time before bed. Stop caffeine (yes, even chocolate) about eight hours before bed and avoid alcohol four hours before bedtime. Alcohol might make you feel sleepy, but that sedative effect wears off and works as a sleep disrupter later.
A good night’s sleep isn’t an extravagance; it’s an important part of taking care of your health. If something is preventing you from getting the rest you need, don’t resort to living with it. Find the cause, get the best treatment, and restore your health!
Sources for this article included: sleepfoundation.org, mayoclinic.org, and webmd.com.
By Janette Calabro
Auto Wise
Drive Into the Holidays
This Season’s Surprising and Most-Loved Gifts
Some of the best holiday gifts are the ones no one thinks to put on a wish list. Few people are dropping hints about a portable tire inflator, trunk organizer, or professional car detailing. But once you’ve given a gift that makes someone’s daily drive safer or more enjoyable, you may discover that car-related gifts will become your “go-to” gifts for friends, coworkers, or family.
Still not convinced that car-related items should be considered gift material? Just think about how much time we spend in our vehicles. People commute, run errands, transport kids or grandchildren, take road trips, and sometimes practically live in the front seat. Why not make that time in the car more comfortable?
For new or inexperienced drivers, or anyone who assumes the car will simply take care of itself, safety gifts are a smart gift. AAA recommends keeping emergency supplies in the vehicle, including a flashlight, first-aid supplies, a phone charger, and roadside visibility equipment.
A compact jump starter can restart a dead battery without another vehicle nearby. Rechargeable tire inflators are another practical option for those unwelcome low-tire-pressure surprises. They may not be glamorous, but the first time your child, best friend, or coworker needs one, they will thank you for thinking ahead!
If an emergency kit feels impersonal, personalize it. Add gloves in the recipient’s favorite color. Find out which charging cables they need. Add a flashlight, reflective triangles, and a few of their favorite snacks. Package it in a tote with tissue paper and ribbon, and practical suddenly looks like a real treat.
Technology can also upgrade the daily drive. Wireless phone chargers can reduce cable clutter, while dash cameras remain popular with drivers who want added documentation on the road. Older vehicles may benefit from Bluetooth devices or newer smartphone add-ons.
More technology should not mean more distraction. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration warns that anything taking a driver’s attention away from the road can become a safety issue. A phone mount is most useful when navigation is set before the trip and the phone stays mostly untouched while driving.
Then there are gifts for anyone whose vehicle has quietly become a rolling storage closet. Seat-back organizers, trunk bins, console organizers, and whimsical trash containers can make a surprising difference. Busy parents may appreciate washable floor liners or cargo mats, while commuters might love a compact car vacuum or a better way to store sunglasses and charging cords.
One small accessory tackles a universal annoyance: that mysterious gap between the driver’s seat and center console where phones, credit cards, and French fries seem to disappear forever. Enter the seat-gap filler! This handy item turns that tiny black hole into tidy storage.
One of the most underrated automotive gifts requires no wrapping: professional detailing. Most people do not wake up thinking, “I hope someone gets my car detailed for Christmas,” yet few things feel as luxurious as climbing into a vehicle with spotless windows, vacuumed carpets, clean seats, and a polished dashboard.
A detailing package can be both practical and indulgent…and isn’t that the best kind of gift? Choose an interior cleaning or a full inside-and-out detail. It is also perfect for the person who insists, “I don’t need anything.” And there is no rule against buying one for yourself.
For colder climates, winter accessories can make thoughtful gifts, too. AAA suggests that all drivers carry an ice scraper, snow brush, warm blanket, traction material, small shovel, and roadside warning equipment. Portable jump starters, power banks, and rechargeable flashlights should be checked and recharged periodically.
If your recipient prefers style over survival gear, consider custom floor mats, monogrammed organizers, attractive key cases, upgraded travel mugs, or portable coolers.
Another benefit of car gifts is that these gifts can fit almost any price range. Tire gauges, flashlights, and small organizers start well under $25, making them great for office gift exchanges. Phone mounts, emergency kits, vacuums, and trunk organizers fall into the mid range, while jump starters, tire inflators, dash cameras, premium floor liners, and detailing packages make more substantial gifts.
Before buying, check the recipient’s vehicle year, make, and model. “Universal” does not always mean that one size fits all. Electronics, floor mats, and cargo liners may require specific compatibility. Hardwired dash cameras, backup cameras, remote starters, and other electrical accessories are best left to a professional installer.
This holiday season, consider giving the driver in your life something they never thought to ask for: a cleaner car, a safer commute, an organized trunk, a charged phone, or simply a little more peace of mind. Sometimes, the most unexpected gifts are the ones people end up using, and loving, the most.
Sources for this article included: aaa.com, nhtsa.gov, and consumerreports.org.
By Leslie Byrne
The Good Life
Holiday Entertaining
Less Stress, More Cheer!
The pages on the calendar are flipping quickly—the countdown is on to holiday entertaining! If ubiquitous images of the perfect menu, table settings, decorations, and food fill you with dread, a few timely ideas can lighten the load. Remember: The goal is not perfection. The goal is a warm, welcoming gathering that lets you enjoy your guests as much as they enjoy your home.
Sit down with a pad and paper, a calendar, and a beverage of your choice. Start making a plan that includes time, money, energy, and realistic goals. Are you entertaining several groups—business associates, neighbors, relatives, or clients? Are you planning full dinners, heavy hors d’oeuvres, drinks, brunch, lunch, dinner, or a dessert bar? Pick your priorities for each gathering. Even if your budget is limited, you can create a festive atmosphere with candles, music, greenery, and a few favorite dishes.
Keep your guest list comfortable. Invite the number of people you can entertain without busting your budget or straining your space. Smaller gatherings offer calm and give people time to reconnect. An open house does not have the same feel as a dinner party, so be clear on the invitation about the time, the type of food being served, whether there is a theme, and whether the gathering is for adults only or open to everyone. RSVPs can help you estimate how many people are coming.
For a family gathering, do not be shy about divvying up the food duties: You do the main dish while relatives bring sides and preferred beverages. Assign tasks to people in your house who are able to help. Stress can be avoided when you know how to ask, delegate, and reward.
Plan a menu that works for you. Avoid a complicated menu unless you are hiring a caterer or are skilled at that kind of launch. Consider make-ahead items and foods that can be kept safely at room temperature.
Cheese or charcuterie boards, soup that can stay warm, a variety of breads, simple sides, and a dessert tray with several choices can all feel generous without requiring last-minute assembly. Finger foods or appetizers help guests chat and chow at the same time.
Think about oven space, refrigerator space, bar or drink options, guest flow, and the utensils you will need. If guests have dietary restrictions, label dishes on the buffet—no one likes to play “identify the food” before deciding whether they can eat it.
Create a timeline and work backward. List the tasks that have to be done, perhaps under two headings: food and non-food. If you are hosting several gatherings, use a notebook or folder to create a simple plan for each one. Lists are your friend: party dates, invitation deadlines, menus, grocery supplies, dish and utensil needs, seating, decorations, and budget.
After you see the tasks ahead, consider hiring someone to provide the food. Grocery stores, restaurants, and local caterers often have holiday menus, delivery options, and staffing suggestions. Bakeries can offer an amazing spread of desserts.
If you want to use a caterer, start looking as soon as your date is firm. Holiday calendars fill up quickly, and menu choices can become limited. Ask about sample menus, minimum orders, delivery fees, staffing rates, cancellation policies, and whether tableware is included. Clarify who handles set-up and clean-up. You may not want full-service staff, but delivered food alone can reduce your stress level and free you up to enjoy the evening with your guests.
The food can make or break a party, but it’s not just about the food! You want your home to look warm and welcoming. Hiring a cleaning service for before or after the party can be a big stress-reliever. Remember, it doesn’t have to cover every room in the house.
When it comes to low-stress decorating, consider reusing and upcycling. What do you already own? Get out old vases, charger plates, crystal bowls, and platters. Your grocery store’s produce section also has items that can be gathered into simple arrangements. Choose a theme, then pair easy elements such as pine cones, evergreen branches, dried fruits, Christmas ornaments, battery-powered fairy lights, and candles. For fragrance, simmer a small pot of fresh potpourri on the stove, with water or apple cider, cinnamon sticks, orange peels, and a bit of rosemary.
Prioritize your goals early in the season. The meaning of gathering—connection, gratitude, welcome, and joy—should remain the heart of whatever holiday you are celebrating. When the candles are lit, the food is shared, and the people you care about feel at home, the gathering has already done its work.
Sources for this article included: realsimple.com, midwestliving.com, and bhg.com.
By Kate Beiting
Great Escapes
Time to Cruise!
2027’s New Ship Debuts
Whether you are a serial cruiser or making plans for your very first cruise, you will want to call your travel agent and start looking now if you want to book for 2027. December and January bring out some of the best deals and promotions in the cruise industry, and the debut of several new ships is exciting news.
To be honest, up until about two years ago, I did not prefer ocean cruises. I felt like cattle being herded around, told where to go and when to eat. But I have been sampling as many cruise lines as possible in the past few years, and they have definitely changed. Now, I enjoy exploring the ocean liners! I know I have the option to be with the crowd or to escape it, that I can do what I want to do when I want to do it. The cruise industry has definitely solved that issue of making me feel like a cow. I’m ready to book again! Allow me to introduce you to the new line of ships coming in 2027.
Let’s start with the family-friendly ships. Many cruisers are looking for fun, multi-generational trips. The cruise industry understands that if the kids are not happy, their parents are not happy…and if the parents are not happy, they will not return. A lot of thinking goes into the spaces, offerings, and amenities for children and teenagers to ensure that everyone in the family has a great time. Get ready to experience that new-ship smell!
CARNIVAL FESTIVALE
Debuting in the spring, Carnival Festivale will sail out of Port Canaveral, Florida. Music and entertainment lovers will appreciate the Excel class’s new music-themed zones and immersive experiences. To accommodate families, this ship will feature 1,000 interconnecting rooms.
MSC WORLD ATLANTIC
Setting sail out of Port Canaveral to the Caribbean in the winter of 2027, this 6,700+ mega ship offers “European style meets American comfort like you’ve never seen before.” Expect to enjoy a variety of cultures, flavors, and generations, plus the option to book MSC’s luxurious Yacht Club.
NORWEGIAN AURA
This will be Norwegian’s biggest ship ever, with a maximum capacity of 3,880 passengers. Part of the Prima Class, the Aura will have boutique-style design, more open spaces, and upscale amenities. It will also feature “Ocean Heights,” Norwegian’s first-ever open-air activities complex. Book the debut sailing out of Venice on May 21st or wait until it is at its home port of Miami to catch a Caribbean itinerary.
ROYAL CARIBBEAN HERO OF THE SEAS
Hero of the Seas debuts this August, providing another Miami option to take guests to the eastern and western Caribbean. Every vacation will get to visit Royal’s top-rated destination, Perfect Day CocoBay in the Bahamas. This Icon class ship joins the biggest and baddest of family vacations, offering nonstop fun with its activities, amenities, and “distinct neighborhoods.”
DISNEY BELIEVE
This Wish class ship is expected in late 2027 and will feature characters from Encanto, Frozen, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, Moana, and The Little Mermaid. At the time of this writing, Disney has not officially announced Believe’s home port.
If family cruising is not what you have in mind for 2027, consider an adults-only cruise that focuses on luxury and relaxation. There are great offerings from Viking, Explora, and Oceania to consider.
VIKING ASTREA
Scheduled for May, this small ship hosts fewer than 1,000 guests and will spend the season sailing in Northern Europe and the Mediterranean. I love how these smaller ships get you to docks that the larger ships cannot access.
EXPLORA IV and V
Explora IV is already taking bookings as early as April 15th, departing from Genoa, Italy. Explora V has its first Rome departure on December 4th. All of Explora’s journeys include alcohol, spa access, fitness classes, Wi-Fi, and tips, among other things.
OCEANIA SONATA
Last, but not certainly not least, is the new Oceania Sonata, with its 14-day maiden voyage from Rome to Trieste starting August 7th. This is Oceania’s first vessel in its brand new Sonata class, which has even more “elevated suite accommodations and enhanced culinary experiences.” This brand is the world’s leading destination-focused, culinary-forward luxury cruise line.
There you have it! A little something to whet your appetite for booking a few vacations early in the year. If you have not subscribed to your desired cruise line’s newsletters, make sure to do that for additional discounts and offers that your travel agent can stack on your reservation. If you live near one of these port cities, last-minute deals can be hard to pass up. Enjoy your next cruise!
Sources for this article included: nclhltd.com, explorajourneys.com, and oceaniacruises.com.
Editor’s Note: Jackie has been a freelance writer since 2006. Her work has appeared in publications including Colorado Golf, Desert Golf, and Canadian Architecture & Design. Her blogs can be found at BoardandRide.com and the luxury and adventure travel website, ArtofTripping.com.
By Jackie Williams
The Green Thumb
The Bee’s Knees
Be a Friend to the Bees
Pollinators are an extremely important part of our existence in the world. Pollinators provide an invaluable service to most of our food plants, which makes it all possible for them to produce their bounty. There are many kinds of pollinators in our world, and we appreciate them all, but bees are the rulers of all the pollinators. Bees are better equipped to collect, store, and spread pollen because of their unique behavioral and physical characteristics.
You have probably heard that bee populations are declining, mainly because of the loss of suitable habitats necessary for their survival. Since more and more land is being taken up by concrete, construction, and turf grass, it may be up to us home gardeners to provide bees with the habitats they need to survive and thrive.
There are many different species of native bees in the world, and they all look and behave diversely. Some species of bees are active during the summer and fall, while others pollinate early spring crops.
Most of our native bees are not social bees that live in hives (like honeybees do). With the exception of the bumblebee, our native bees are more solitary creatures. Our native bees take care of business by pollinating flowers and raising their young.
Native bees are not aggressive in the least. It is the female who is capable of stinging, but she very seldom does. Native bees will dig tunnels or holes in bare soil to deposit their eggs; others will lay their eggs in the hollow stems of native plants.
The process of transferring pollen from the male part of a flower (the stamen) to the female part (the pistil) enables the fertilization and seed production. The fuzzy bodies of bees, along with their specialized pollen baskets, enable them to efficiently collect and transport pollen.
Their consistent flower-visiting and flight patterns enhance reproductive success for many and varied plant species. Since bees pollinate a wide variety of plants, they support biodiversity and maintain a healthy ecosystem. Cross-pollination by bees helps to create genetically diverse plant populations which, in turn, are more resilient to pests and diseases. If bee populations decline, ecosystems can destabilize and lose resilience against pests and disease.
Approximately one third of the world’s food crops depend on bee pollination; this includes fruits, vegetables, nuts, and seeds. The effectiveness of bee pollination can increase crop yields and also improve the quality and size of produce, so bees are also economically very valuable.
Some would say bees are the most important living things on the planet, since they are indispensable to the environment. They ensure food security, support wildlife, enable plant reproduction, and sustain biodiversity. The decline of bees would have vast economic and ecological consequences.
As humans, we should all be interested in protecting bees so they can play their part in maintaining human agricultural systems and natural ecosystems. Bees experience threats from pesticide use, climate change, and habitat loss. Losing their habitat reduces nesting sites and food availability, while environmental threats can increase susceptibility to disease and even local extinction.
What can you plant in your garden this spring to attract the optimum number of these fuzzy little pollinators? Here are some guaranteed to make your garden a hub and sanctuary for bees.
Number one on my list is chives, which are in the allium family. When they’re in bloom, the number of bees that they attract is absolutely outrageous, and their puffy flowers are so whimsical! I always have them in my gardens.
Second choice is Monarda, which is aptly known as bee balm. These plants are absolutely gorgeous when blooming, and they are extremely easy to grow. Honeysuckle (the vining version) will climb up walls, trellises, or pergolas with ease and determination. The fragrance is divine, both for us and for the bees!
Agastache is deer-tolerant; its fragrance is often compared to licorice or mint. Goldenrod gets a bad rap because some people think it is ragweed, but it actually has pollen that is too heavy to be airborne, and I think it is beautiful. Black-eyed Susans are always in my gardens because they are sun-loving and draught-tolerant.
California poppies are one of my favorite flowers and come in such vivid colors. Lupine is a very dramatic flower that needs a sunny spot in order to do well. Liatris is that bottle brush–shaped beauty that bees will swarm to. Last but certainly not least is yarrow. Yarrow works well as groundcover and looks like a blanket of loveliness.
I would encourage you to plant some of the aforementioned beauties in your garden this spring. The bees will thank you many times over.
By Linda Sutherland
Cuddly Critters
Pet Grooming Essentials
Keeping Dogs and Cats Healthy, Clean, and Comfortable
Regular grooming is about more than looks. For dogs and cats, grooming keeps coats clean, skin comfortable, nails at a healthy length, and problems easier to spot. Brushing at home removes loose hair and mats, while professional grooming helps identify changes that may need veterinary attention.
Dogs and cats have different grooming needs. Dogs often need regular bathing, brushing, nail trims, ear care, and even haircuts. Cats groom themselves, so many need less frequent bathing. However, long-haired cats can develop mats and tangles, so they benefit from regular brushing or professional grooming.
A professional appointment can include bathing, brushing, trimming, nail clipping, ear cleaning, and sanitary trims. Some groomers offer extra services, depending on training and the pet’s needs. A poodle or Shih Tzu may need frequent haircuts and brushing, while a short-haired dog may need far less. Pets with thick double coats shed heavily, especially during seasonal changes, and may need more brushing.
Age, activity, and health matter. Puppies and kittens benefit from short, positive sessions. Seniors may need gentler handling and more breaks, especially if arthritic. Active pets get dirty faster than indoor pets. Pets with allergies, skin conditions, or other concerns may need special products or a plan from their veterinarian.
No single schedule works for every pet. Many long-haired pets benefit from professional grooming every four to six weeks, while others may need visits more or less often. Regular brushing and maintenance between visits make grooming appointments easier. A pet may be ready for grooming when owners notice mats, excessive shedding, a strong odor, overgrown nails, or a dirty coat. Redness, sores, bald spots, or irritated skin should be discussed with a veterinarian.
Ask friends, family, or your veterinary team for groomer recommendations. Look for a clean, well-ventilated facility with safe handling practices. Ask about the groomer’s training and experience with your pet’s breed and coat. Before scheduling, ask: What services are included? How long will the appointment take? How do you handle anxious or senior pets? What happens if you find mats or a skin problem? Do you have emergency procedures and liability insurance? What will the total cost be? A good groomer should be willing to explain the process and answer questions.
A groomer needs to know about your pet’s medications, allergies, previous grooming reactions, and any areas that are painful or sensitive. Sharing this information helps the groomer choose appropriate techniques and know when to pause or contact the owner. For first-time pets, starting with a basic service instead of a major haircut may help them become comfortable with the routine. Owners should also ask how the groomer dries pets and how they monitor comfort during drying.
Mobile grooming is an option for pet owners who want added convenience. A mobile groomer typically brings a fully equipped grooming unit to the home, allowing the pet to receive one-on-one care without waiting in a busy salon. This can be especially helpful for anxious pets, senior pets, pets with mobility challenges, or owners with busy schedules.
Between professional appointments, owners can help by brushing their pet’s coat with tools appropriate for its type, checking paws and nails, and regularly checking the ears. Never cut mats close to the skin with household scissors, and avoid putting objects deep into the ear canal. If a pet becomes very upset during grooming, use short sessions, treats, and praise instead of forcing the process. Starting with gentle handling when pets are young can make future grooming much easier.
For cats, frequency is especially individual. A short-haired indoor cat may only need occasional professional help, while a long-haired cat may benefit from regular appointments to prevent mats. Older, overweight, or arthritic cats may have more difficulty reaching every part of their coat and can need extra assistance. Groomers can also help keep the areas around the paws and sanitary areas neat; owners should follow professional guidance rather than attempting complicated trims themselves.
Grooming can also be a useful routine for building trust. Handling paws, ears, and the coat gently at home helps pets get used to touch before they need a professional appointment. Keeping sessions calm and rewarding good behavior with treats can help turn grooming into a normal part of everyday pet care.
Most importantly, groomers are not a substitute for veterinary care. A veterinarian should evaluate persistent itching, redness, discharge, unusual odors, sudden hair loss, painful nails, ear swelling, or other changes. Regular grooming, thoughtful home care, and routine veterinary visits can work together to keep pets looking good, feeling comfortable, and enjoying a healthier, happier life.
Sources for this article included: aspca.org, akc.org, and aaha.org.
By Savannah Rosa
Positive Perspective
When We Get Stuck
Finding the Courage to Move Forward
Sometimes, we don’t realize we’re stuck until we try to move. We can become stuck in a relationship, a friendship, a career, or even a role we’ve taken on within our family. We keep doing what we’ve always done because it feels familiar and safe—even when it no longer serves us.
Being stuck doesn’t always look like unhappiness. Sometimes it looks like responsibility. We tell ourselves we have to stay because someone needs us. We can’t leave because we’ve invested too much time. We shouldn’t make a change because it might disappoint someone. We convince ourselves that things will eventually get better. And sometimes, we simply don’t know what comes next.
“If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one.” — Dolly Parton
There are many reasons we allow ourselves to stay stuck.
Fear is a big one. Change is uncomfortable, and the unknown can feel much scarier than a situation we already understand. Even when we’re unhappy, there is a certain comfort in knowing what tomorrow will look like.
Guilt can keep us stuck, too. This can be especially true for those who have spent years being the caretaker, the dependable one, the person everyone calls when they need something. We become so accustomed to taking care of everyone else that we forget to ask ourselves what we need.
Sometimes our identity becomes tied to the role we play. We are the good wife, the good friend, the reliable employee, the parent who handles everything, or the family member who always says yes. We worry that if we stop doing those things, we will somehow let people down or be seen as a failure.
“You cannot change what you are, only what you do.” — Philip Pullman
The truth is, getting unstuck doesn’t always mean making a dramatic change. Sometimes, it begins with something much smaller: admitting to yourself that you’re not happy.
We don’t have to have the entire path figured out before taking the first step. We can ask ourselves some difficult questions. If I weren’t afraid, what would I change? What am I tolerating that I no longer want to tolerate? We may not find immediate answers, but asking the questions can help us begin listening to ourselves again.
And sometimes, getting unstuck means accepting that you can’t change another person. You can only decide what you are willing to accept and what you are willing to do differently.
“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” — C.S. Lewis
I think one of the hardest parts about making a change is realizing that the life we have built isn’t necessarily the life we have to keep living.
We are allowed to outgrow things.
We are allowed to change our minds.
We are allowed to want something different.
And we are allowed to choose ourselves without believing that it makes us selfish, bad, or wrong.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, don’t pressure yourself to figure out your entire future today. Start by taking one small step. You may discover that the door you’ve been afraid to open isn’t the end of something. It may be just the beginning.
By Carissa Rosa
