The New Year has set in and at this point, many people who made resolutions have already weakened their resolve toward accomplishing them. At the beginning of the year, they were sure that this would be the year that they achieved their goals. So what happened? They pushed too hard and too fast. They didn’t ease into the change. Instead, they went from zero to 60 overnight and they weren’t prepared.

This same idea of pushing through and just getting it done seems to pop up in our everyday lives as well. We push our kids to be a great student and/or athlete. We push ourselves to reach that next benchmark. Sometimes we just push too much and end up hitting the wall, so to speak.
This idea of just pushing through can come into play in every aspect of our lives. Often, pushing through is not the best solution. Sometimes we need to realize that no matter how hard we push, we won’t get there due to the place of stress and frustration that we are in.

We would feel a greater sense of relief—and perhaps a little joy—if we just said, “I’ve done all I can for now. I have to let it go.” Then step away from the situation and see what happens.

“How to succeed: Try hard enough. How to fail: Try too hard.” —Malcolm Forbes

I often find that when I stop pushing is when things start to break loose. Those seeds I’ve planted—the thoughts and ideas I’ve put out to the universe—start to spring forth. Sometimes I find out that the thing I was pushing so hard to achieve really wasn’t what I wanted at all. I was just so set in my belief that it was all I could see.

There have been plenty of times when I’ve fought fiercely for things both professionally and personally that I thought I wanted. Then I found out that once I let that thing go, I was better off in the long run. Now I’ve started to learn not to push so hard all the time. I find that I am happier and more successful at whatever I’m working at if I just let go of my resistance.

I know that I have put enough energy in creating certain things for myself that I don’t need to micromanage how I achieve those things. While I am not perfect at always letting things go, I have gotten a bit quicker at recognizing when I am pushing too hard. At least it’s a beginning.

“What proportion of my day am I in vibrational harmony with my desires, which means, how much of my day am I happy, glad, eager, fulfilled, satisfied, complimentary? And what percentage of my day am I ornery, irritated, frustrated, or blaming? And you don’t have to do 100%, you don’t have to do 90%, you don’t have to do 80%. If you could even get around 55% feeling better, than not feeling so good—you’d have significant movement in what begins to happen in your experience.” —Abraham

Try pushing a little less and feeling good and excited a little more. See how it feels. Reach for that feeling a little more each day, and it will leave less time to push against that which you don’t want. Realize that it’s alright to change your wants and desires.

Relationships that once worked may no longer be offering a benefit to you. That promotion or move you were striving for may not be the next best step on your journey. If things don’t go the way you’ve been pushing them toward, realize that something better may be around the corner.